SS has found absent BM on facbook....
Back story - BM has not had any physical contact with SS15 for about 5 years. No phone contact for abour 3 years and stopped send presents for xmas and b'day about 2 years ago.
SS15 has been crowing about wanting to find her (we have no idea where she lives as she moved (found out through child support) and she has not provided us any contact details).
SS15 stayed with my in-laws for the weekend and my stupid FIL told him BM used to use Meth (which we have no idea if this is even the case so he sure as hell wouldn't know), so now SS15 is saying he can understand why she didn't contact him as she was in a bad place - sob sob. This was after 3 years ago she told him on the phone she was cutting off contact with him.
So coincidence would have it, SS15's older 1/2 sister (BM's 1st child) friended him on facebook. ON further inspection BM, her hsuband, his kids, SS15's uncles/aunties etc are all friends with his sister, so of course SS15 friend's them. We looked at BM's profile and the stupid cow has her cover photo as an old photo of her with SS15 and the sister, both whom she shipped off with their fathers when she left DH.
Our worry is what this now means. BM has mental health issues and clearly not wanted any contact with SS for years. She had tried to get out of paying CS on many occasions. Things have been terrible at home with SS15 of late for various reasons, and we are worried he will get in ear of BM and at some point, want to go back to her. As much as I would love this to happen, BM is carzy and would destroy SS15 even more than she has, and would likley grow sick of him after a period (which has also happened in the beginning of the break up when SS lived with her for about 18 months). DH has un-freinded him to make sure none of them can see his profile (SS15 is blocked from me) and he has told SS15 any discussions about our family and happenings in our household are off limits.