Grrrrrr!! Disengaged then sucked right back in!!
I am so angry with myself. Things were going well since I stepped right back from SS15 (lives with us full-time), we moved him downstairs so he has a little teenage retreat (pretty cool setup and out of our faces).
The other night though I got sucked right back in. He has been a right asshole of late in general (probably normal emo teenage agnst) and we had quite a normal conversation about what is going on for him (friend at school commmitted suicide in Nov last year so now all the other kids are on ther band wagon etc). Then DH and he start to talk about him having access to a bank account we put money in each fortnight, to use as he sees fit (as a means to teach him some responsibility about money etc).
So he comes out on Sunday night and says, 'so what are the plans for tomorrow?' (Monday). So stupid me bites and says, 'SS15, if you want to ask about going to the bank to organise about the access, just ask'. Well, didn't that set off a shitstorm. He starts screaming that he never even considered that, that we treat him like shite etc. Ended with him facing off with DH who wasn't even involved and DH kicking him outside to calm down. Later SS15 claimed DH was lucky he didn't punch him (laughable as SS is taller than DH but a weedy kid, and DH is an ex-Army PT and bodybuilder).
I am sooooo angry at myself as I got sucked back in with his BS. Why couldn't I just ignore him??!! I knew exactly where his line of questions was going but I bit. Anyone else do this and regret it??