SD14 has said she doesn't want to come this weekend
DH has EOWE and it would be SD's weekend to come see her dad. Well apparently she doesn't want to come for her visit. She text it to DH. He called her back to ask why, she said that it's because when things go down that he and I never take her side. Dh told her that when things go down, he tries to get both sides of the story and he finds out that SHE is the one who initiates most of the drama. Either that or when he's present and an arguement is starting he nips it in the bud before it gets too far. As far as for me, I don't take sides, If my kids are causing crap I tell them to stop. If SD is starting crap I tell her to stop.
One of her issues were from last week. DD16 stuck her finger in SD14's drink and I told DD that was gross and not ok to do, how would you like if SD did the same thing? You have to have more respect for people than that. DD16 apologized. SD went on and on about it for days. I told SD to knock it off and that situation has been handled. So now apparently she went home and talked to her mom about it and told her that I didn't say anything to DD about it and that I took DDs side.
Another Issue she has with me is that I MENTIONED that it seems that she has a lot of heartburn. She seemed to have taken it as an insult, which I completely don't understand, as I suffer from heartburn as well. I had just started making spaghetti and she said is it ok that she doesn't get sauce on the spaghetti and that she was having heart burn last night from pizza, and she usually gets heartburn from spaghetti. my response was "Huh, you seem to get heartburn a lot." I didn't say it as a insult. I merely was thinking that she should see a doctor since she seems to be having a lot of heartburn. It was out of concern. But of course she blew up and attempted to turn it around to DH that I was being mean to her.
Not only is she not coming this weekend, she's told DH that she'll have to think about next weekend after Dh's brother's funeral. Since it's the 1st weekend in Feb, DH should have her.