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Is this what its like to stand up for yourself

porcelian-doll's picture

I got up this morning feeling like the inside of a fat man’s butthole. My head hurts, I'm having vaginal soreness, and I looked in the mirror to be greeted by my new love handles and kankles. Every time I go to the bathroom I walk out and end up running right back like my bladder is playing a cruel joke. I can feel her inside of me it feels like she is stretching every five minutes. My ankles hurt when I walk and I have heartburn. I turned on the TV to some show with a pregnant woman laughing with her friends and I wanted to throw my shoe at the screen.

And to add insult to injury I go to get some cashews and vanilla ice cream. I open my cashew can and it’s empty. I curse in my mind. DH comes out and rubs my belly and tells me he told SD she can have a friend come over after school to work on a project and he has to go to work this afternoon. I asked if he could please drop them by the library after school because I don't want to be stuck in the house alone with two teenagers and I don't feel so well. He starts to get snippy with me saying that I always find a problem in anything dealing with SD and it won’t kill me to have her friend come over and they can practically watch themselves. I stood up looked him right in the eye.

"DH I said no not today. I have a right to say no I don't want to watch two teenagers. I just love how you and SD make plans and just expect me to fall in line. I am 27 weeks pregnant with your child. I feel like crap and I said not today. Call me a B whatever. I have the right to relax in my house. Before you open your mouth and turn this into an argument know this. I am not in the mood I am not trying to be evil right now but I am fat and pregnant and feeling like crap. And if you act like you can care less I will come un raveled because your priority right now is making your pregnant wife feel comfortable and not stressed out because I feel my blood pressure rising"

DH didn't say much other than he understands and he will drop them by the library. I may have blown things out of proportion and had a moment of letting my hormones get to me. But I feel like I said what I needed to say and t got his attention. He is on his way to the store to get me some cashews now so at least something good will comes out of this morning.

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HungryEyes's picture

That's awesome. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Sorry about your misery with Pregnancy. I was the same way. And I hated every step of the way. I was very sick both pregnancies the whole time, pale, miserable. IT's so worth it though. You forget about all of it the minute you hear that first cry! Your life will be forever changed.

AlreadyGone's picture

Just tell him this.... 'When Momma is happy, EVERYONE is happy!' LOL. Hope you feel better as the day wears on. Smile

Lalena75's picture

Yay! I'm proud of you! I don't think any bit of what you said was out of line. You have been saddled with a crappy ass teen whenever he tells her sure but then runs off to work. Get you feet up drink plenty of water relax with a warm wash rag on your forehead.

noway70's picture

Good for you, Porcelain! You are the woman of the house.
This is how it should be. Hope you don't make this into a one-time-hormonal-feeling-bad thing, but a regular behavior.
DH and SD making plans that involve you without asking you first is NOT ok. DH disregarding your feelings and discounting them as minor is NOT ok. DH leaving private pictures of you accessible to SD is NOT ok. DH not addressing her rude behavior is not ok.
Don't let anyone make you feel bad for standing up for yourself.
You are not a B... and are not out to get your SD.
Keep it up!

whatwasithinkin's picture

There is light at the end of your tunnel. But I am some what concerned that you are still not feeling well like to this point at 27 weeks.

PeanutandSons's picture

Yep, everyone is different. I felt fantastic my entire pregnancy.....even at 40 weeks ...I didn't even feel pregnant. Other people are miserable the entire time.

porcelian-doll's picture

Thanks ladies. I got my cashews and DH even fixed me some strips of bacon. Now I'm resting on my couch with my legs propped up. DH at work SD at school and my netflix all to myself. Sweet solitude and I'm feeling better than I did this morning but my breast each and my thighs hurt.