MIL's, do they really mean well?
MIL has a couple of really bad habits that she has developed since FDH and I moved in together about 2 years ago. 1). She has started "showing up" at our house. All hours of the day. Only on weekedays thank god when she know's I'm not there. Now I know this is new because when FDH and SD7 lived in their apt I joined them with inlaws for a party and FDH commented that this was only the second time in 10 years that they had been to his place.
2). When she comes to our house she "cooks" and "cleans". She makes these bread and meat pies that DH likes and also pasta, just plain, dry pasta cooked in a pot for SD7. We have been fighting with SD7 over what she eats and have been making real progress. Until I came on the scene she was eating corn, and cheerios. THAT"S IT!! But at grandma's house she still only eats dry pasta. And MIL always finds something that needs to be cleaned. Now my house is not my mother's, where you could eat off the floor, but it's also not a house from horders!! It's just a normal house. Yes if you pick up the microwave you will find some crumbs. And I'll bet if you look under the sink you'll find something that needs to be wiped up. But something about it absolutly drives me crazy!! I know she was there, and I know my house stinks from frying meat pies, and I know SD7 ate her body weight in pasta at 4:00 so she won't eat dinner, but she'll be hungry at bedtime....I tried letting FDH know but he is so clueless about why this would be upsetting... Any advice?