Linked S/O to Step Family Central
I came across the Step Family Central Podcast yesterday. I don't know if it's been mentioned here before but I'm finding it to be pretty informative so far.
I sent S/O a link in his email (after telling him about it and getting the okay) and he told he would listen to it yesterday while he was eating his lunch. He didn't and I let it go because at least he is open to listening to it and I don't want to nag. He told me last night that he would listen to it before he went to bed and again, he didn't because he, "fell asleep after eating his snack". His computer is not in his room where his bed is so although I wanted to ask why couldn't you just eat the snack while listening to the podcast, I didn't. Again to avoid nagging him. Here's where I'm annoyed, he tells me this morning he's going to listen to it and asks me if a certain episode is the first episode. My response is no because the way itunes is set up, the LATEST episode is listed as #1 but not the very first episode ever done. He sent me a snapshot to show me he's listening to it but guess what? It's NOT the first episode. It's the episode he asked about and I told him it's not the first episode. I KNOW he started listening to that one because the subject matter interested him. First he tried to convince me that he was listening to that particular episode out of confusion. Even after I straight up told him, after he asked, that wasn't the first episode. So when he realizes I'm not buying it he finally admits the partial truth which is that he started it and wanted to finish it. I ask why bother to ask me if you're going to listen to whatever episode you want anyway. His response is "I don't know". UHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! I absolutely HATE that answer because it's not a f****ing answer. I don't even CARE what episode he listens to first. WHY involve me and then ignore me? WTF is that? After he said "I don't know" I just sent him the mad face emoji and he asks what? I just said, I don't know back. He then asks me AGAIN which episode is the first episode and I respond I don't know again. I'm aware that my response probably wasn't the most mature. I think on some level I hope that it will help him understand what it feels like to be denied an answer but I'm probably being too optimistic about that.
This is constantly an issue I have with him. For example, we will be having a discussion and I'll try to clarify what he's saying to me by repeating it and he'll be like, that's not what I'm saying. So I ask him to clarify and he'll repeat himself and I'll tell him what it sounds like he's saying to me and I'll repeat what I said before and he'll say yeah thats what I'm saying. (confused?) So I'll ask, why did you say that you weren't saying that when I asked you the first time and his response is always "I don't know".
I don't know what to do about it. It is very frustrating and it makes it so that we constantly go around in circles during arguments or discussions and we never accomplish anything. I try not to get mad but I can't help but feel like he does it on purpose. In this situation I feel like it was completely unnecessary for him to ask what the first episode was. I feel like he went out of his way to ask me a question so that he could ignore it. I feel petty being so annoyed but I'm also aware that this particular instance is making me mad because this isn't the first time he's done something like this. I don't know what to say to him beyond, "Don't ask me questions you don't want the answer to".
Do any of you, if I haven't confused you, have any ideas of how to handle this? Not THIS situation but what seems to be a blatant attempt to give me the run around.