I'm trying to process all that I'm reading here, and there are some great suggestions and advice. I just keep going back to the same place...I married my DH a year ago knowing he had kids (SD19 and SS13 now) and knowing that BM had "mental issues" (very possibly BPD). I didn't really understand how it was because we didn't live together before we got married and I didn't spend much time with the skids. The skids and I get along pretty well, but we are dealing with parental alienation by BM. Over the year, my attitude has been deteriorating and that makes me feel guilty. I married this man for better or worse, so shouldn't I be right there fighting this with him? I have been, but it takes so much out of me. I have my own medical problems and my sister is fighting cancer. I need what little energy I have for those things, not fighting about skids or dealing with crazy BM. I feel like I'm shutting down, which causes guilt, which causes more stress. I want to be a good wife to DH and a good SM to the skids, but I don't know if I'm even capable! One thing I'm good at is keeping feelings to myself so skids have a nice home here. DH is very supportive and tries to relieve as much stress as possible, but right now I'm just feeling like a failure at everything! Anybody else feel torn like this?