I am step mom of two 7&10.I have been around since they were 3&4. Somehow along the way I picked up alot of the plans we do as a family together. From summer vacations to birthday parties and christmas. Idk when it started but it's been a while. Lately within the last 6 months or so their behavior has changed alot. They can be so rude ungrateful and disrespectful. They have spent alot of time in their room and things have changed alot. All these times of disrespect has made me step back. I find myself picking up extra shifts when they visit, or I make other plans to not be around. I almost feel bitter about it. I've done so much and always have been so loving and they have changed. Anyway I usually plan birthday gifts parties do all the invites ect. I honestly just wanna do just a few gifts with a simple dinner and that's it. I just don't feel they deserve it honestly. I usually am the one who calls all the family and makes the party arrangements but instead of two expensive big parties would I be the bad guy if we did a small get together w something simple? My dh knows I coordinate all the bills and what we spend and is in agreement but I still feel guilty just feeling like things have changed. I know they r getting older and that young cute stage is going away but it still makes me feel bad. I really don't even want to spend money on them anymore. I'm kind loving still and will always be a supporter but my feelings towards them have changed.