Apprehensive about relationship
Hi there. I am new to this site. I've been in a relationship with my bf for a little over a year now. He has two children from his previous marriage whom he has shared custody of. They stay with him most of the week and sometimes also on the weekends too since his ex wife travels quite a bit for work and generally does not seem interested in her kids unless it's for fun or school activities. She is more career oriented. My bf works from home. He has been a great partner overall however lately I have been seeing some concerning red flags. At first he was a loving partner and great father to his kids. His kids were also very nice to me. However lately he has been having anger temper outbursts where he will threaten to kick me out of his house and tell me to leave (we do not live together yet, this happens when I am over at his place). This usually starts with one of his kids misbehaving and me suggesting to him to address it. He will take his kids' side most of the time and turn on me. He will turn on me to the point where he will get in my face, yell at me and tell me to leave his house. This is after me bringing up that I've caught his kid lying or being disrespectful. One day I watched his daughter while he worked. I took her to the water amusement park and she began to not feel well immediately after we went in and I had just paid for both of us. I called him and asked him what to do. He was very angry with me that I did not know how to "handle it." He went off on me. I left and we didn't speak for days (my choosing). I was very hurt and then he turned it on me and said I was abusive by giving him the silent treatment (he completely left out of the fact that he went off on me in front of his daughter after me paying 50 dollars down the drain and taking his kid out for the day). His kids also have a habit of being very whiney and spoiled to the point it is frustrating. They are generally unappreciative kids who rarely say please or thank you and also are very wasteful of other people's time and money. I work very hard and have began to resent spending my money on his kids at this point. If they acted better I would not care at all but they are so entitled. This happens so often. I also do not trust his kids anymore as I have been nothing but nice to them and very generous as well but have caught them lying about me and playing victim because there is clearly a jealouy issue now that I am spending more time there. I also might add he did two things I really did not care for. First he leaves out the fact that he hangs out with his ex wife frequently when I am not around. In fact he has lied to me about it on more than one occasion and does not know that I know this. He has had her over for dinner, lunch, etc. at his place several times and seen me that same night and failed to mention it. I am not a possesive person so I find just it odd he would not bring this up in our conversations. This is with a woman he claims was horrible to him during their marriage. They are also a little too friendly via text messages for someone who was so horrible. He also is not the best about paying for stuff when we go out together. In fact I pay the seventy to eighty percent of the time which I am getting tired of. I have the money but still it would be nice if he was a little more financially stable or giving at times. I am reluctant to move in with him and when I bring this up I notice he will resort to going on social media and liking other womens photos that he works with that I have not met and posts selfies of himself and gets likes from women I do not know as a way to punish me which I find very odd. He also will bring up how great a mother his ex is which is odd since when I met him he told me she was horrible and she barely sees her kids. They rarely ever even stay over at her place. Does anyone have any insight as to what they think I should do?