Boyfriend wants a Mommy for his child
So I met this man 9 months ago, it was great, he was attentive and sweet and he drove 1.5 hours every weekend to spend it with me even though he had a 14 year old son at home he was raising. Yes we discussed kids and the fact he had two boys, the 14, now 15 year old he was raising and a 3 year old from a 2nd wife. He has been raising the oldest since his Mom passed away 3 years ago. The 3 year old every other weekend. He also understood I had ZERO interest in rasing anymore kids, mine are all grown, youngest is 20 so I am done...peace out! I found it odd he spent every weekend away from his child but he insisted it was fine and that his son was ok with it. Alrighty then!
So after about two months his life fell apart, his sister whom he had been living with kicked him and his son out! I allowed him to live with me for a short period till he could get on his feet. Two moths turned into five, they are now moved out. He did not want too but I could not handle it anymore. I did not have a room for his 15 year old and it was to cramped not to mention the child was annoying in so many ways and ungreatful to be quit honest.
So here we are 9 months later, he has his own place but when we argue he brings up the fact I do not want the mommy role. NO I do not! He feels I shun his child, gives me grief that I don't want to deal with kids anymore but then later insistes he understands and it's not a problem.
I do not feel I should feel guilty for not wanting to raise his child.