Am I Crazy?
I married my DH in February - he has a DD17, DS12, and his ex-wife's nephew who they have raised since he was 2. I have one DD2. I LOVE his two bio kids - it was a little difficult at first with his DS, but I expected that. He is young and wanting his parents back together. The nephew has some real issues - his mom did drugs while she was carrying him. I am having a hard time with him because he is pretty obnoxious, never cleans up after himself and never says thank you for anything. I buy the kids ALOT of fun things and now he asks for expensive stuff all the time. Luckily all he wants to do is play video games all day and night so its not much problem. We all get along so well, that since my DH has been out of town for the past three weeks, I've had them two weekends. They wanted to see me and DD2 and I really wanted to see them. When DH couldn't make it to a birthday trip I planned for his DS12, I invited the biomom to come and we had a really good time. I also drive an hour back and forth picking up and dropping the kids off - and an hour back and forth during the weekends when DD17 is scheduled to work. I also provide them with insurance and medical funds from work - trying to be an adult here and make everyone happy. Maybe I am nuts, but after all of this, I was really hurt that the kids and biomom had a BBQ on Memorial Day and invited all of DH's family - mom, sister, brother in law, and they attended...with bio-moms new boyfriend. It feels like I will never be seen as DH's wife - just a back up or someone he is having an affair with. DH had a vasectomy so I'am also giving up the potential to have kids of my own. He keeps pointing out that we have four kids and don't need more - I pointed out last night that we have three kids and his ex's nephew who he doesn't even have legal guardianship over. How is it fair that we shouldn't have more kids because his ex has an f'ed up family and they had to take the kid? Anyways, seriously putting some thought into whether this is the life I want. Am I crazy?