Life after SKids
A few here may remember me:) It's been about two years since I posted. I was the one who's DH1 died of a totally sudden and expected cancer when I was pregnant with our daughter. I married DH2 about 18 months after - big mistake. He had two kids and BMs nephew, who he raised. These kids were 10, 12, and 16 when I met them and just as crazy as their BM. DH2 had a drinking problem and took his life in my house while I was at Disneyland with my daughter in 2014.
Anyways, since then, I have just continued on. Working with the same company, in the house I owned before I met DH2, and taking care of my daughter, who is now 8. I ended up with the insurance payout from my company that is provided for spouses, which I would have stupidly shared with the SKids, even after the years of crazy. But they "traded" DH2s ashes to me for my daughter after calling the sheriff to my house trying to gain entry to my house to claim what they wanted. So they got nothing:) I used it to travel the world with my daughter over the past two years and pad her college fund.
Meanwhile, the BM (who is 44 years old) got knocked up with the stepdaughters friend a month after their dad killed himself. A 20 year old kid who attended the high school that BM is a part time secretary at (yes, I turned her into the District and Principal since she admitted to the SKids they were dating a month or so after he turned 18, but we know it started before that). She kicked SS16 out of the house DH deeded over to her to move this kid in and SD18 got to raise her very troubled brother in her new town, 400 miles away while at college. He has now come out as a trans person and she gained 70 pounds while taking care of him and is $40,000 in debt for a degree in pottery. I know all of this from one of DH2s high school friends who I have stayed close with. I actually really feel for both of the SKids, but thank god I am out of the whole thing.
I came back here to re-read my previous posts and others since I started dating an old friend with two kids. Gonna walk away from that relationship. His kids and BM are WAY too much like the previous. I knew something was bothering me about the new situation! Anyways, the peace, calm, adventures and happiness when there are no troubled SKids involved is awesome. There is life, a GOOD life after them!