An Open Letter to the 18 Year Old SD from Hell
Please feel free to post your own. This made me feel a little release writing it.
An Open Letter to Ashley
I will NEVER pity you. I will never feel sorry for what your life it going to turn out to be.
YOUR choices and YOURS alone have put you in this spot and you think using the guise of depression and a broken home
Are your tickets to doing absolutely NOTHING with your life.
I have witnessed your Parents, Grandparents, Friends, Family, Parents of Friends, pretty much anyone who has touched your life
Reach out a hand to help you. Guide you on a path of success and all they have asked you in return is to be a respectable girl/woman
Who abides by simple rules. You have lied into the eyes of those who have cared and given them the phony, dumbfaced “Ok I will do this”
Only to just stab them in the back the minute they give you a bit of rope. You have hanged yourself time and time again, and at the end of the day
“It’s Not Your Fault”… RIGHT???? Your choices have cost innocent bystanders THOUNDSANDS of dollars and time they cannot ever get back…
A debt you feel you do not have to pay.
Throwing the middle finger up to homes who would have guided you to success in lieu of Boys, Sex and Drugs.
You wonder why your body is messed up??? Sex with multiple people by the time you are 18, drugs and alcohol……
Disrespecting the ONE THING that is given to us at birth and that is our bodies. You have WILLINGLY damaged yourself.
And EXPECT everyone to come running to your rescue! YOU chose to destroy a home which would have gotten you through high school.
YOU chose to throw away your education. YOU have chosen to sit on your lazy ass and not try to be a contributing member of society.
YOUR Father may never turn your back on your, but I sure as hell can. You have stolen from me, when you know I willingly give. You
Have lied to me in some of my darkest hours, you have put me through your own brand of hell and I am done with you for good.
Go cry to your Mother who has learned the lesson of a lifetime about caring for personal well being. Go cry to all the people who
Have housed you, given you money, pity, empathy, etc… Maybe they will listen… but I don’t buy it anymore.
Just FYI you used her name at
Just FYI you used her name at the top of this letter, You may want to edit to be totally anonymous.
Letter I wish I could send to
Letter I wish I could send to BM
You are not a victim of anything other then yourself. It is not my fault your life has turned out the way it has. In fact I faced multiple of the same choice you did however I made the other decision. I will never apologize for my the choices I made because clearly they were the right ones. Stop acting like I am the reason you and DH are not together I came around years after y'all were done the fact that you were remarried proves that.
SS should not be used as a weapon. Attempting to sabotage his time with his father only hurts him. In fact, sabotaging your own child in anyway is always wrong. Treating him like a baby still is sabotaging him. He is at an age when other kids start to get mean about acting like a baby. SS needs to learn to stand on his own two feet by slowly giving him more control of his own life. Being at his school all the time just to check on him is not normal in fact you are the only parent who does that. SS needs to learn to take responsibility for his own behaviors and skill you still struggle with.
My life, family and friends are none of your business. Stop trying to dig up my dirty secrets because news flash I don't have any. You will find nothing in my past that I would feel uncomfortable explaining to anyone. Another news flash I am actually from the small town we live in so most people know about anything I did as a teenager as well as I know what they did. We were all in school together. Just because it is news to you does not mean it is news to anyone else here. If you were a normal parent that wasn't always planning something DH and I would open up about our future plans but due to your past behavior we will not trust you with any information.
^^^ ditto! Yours is probably
^^^ ditto! Yours is probably a little nicer then mine!
You should write one.
You should write one.
Update to this little
Update to this little nightmare. She woke up a few days ago with a "Broken Tailbone"...LOL.. How stupid does she think we are??? She hasn't been home in almost 2 weeks (Couch surfing from her Bio Moms house and her boyfriends) her looser ass showed up last night at 10pm! She has been staying away because I called her out on stealing very expensive makeup from me, amongst other things... so now she thinks I will PITY her because she went to the ER??? I wonder why the hell she even bothered to come home? Mom ran out of food at her house? BF is tired of her being such a mooch??? Called the store she works at only to find out she was fired a week ago. She owes us $100 for her cell phone and I want to shut the damn thing off. I am FURIOUS that she is sitting in my home and my DH is home today as well. Last night he promised he would lay into her about the stealing but instead he just buried his head because "She just walked through the door"... she crossed my path and I cut her the biggest "Get The F*&! Out" look I could.
My DH is trying to get his life back in order after some horrible occurances which happened in August that landed him in the State Mental Ward. SHE IS NO GOOD FOR HIS RECOVERY, anytime this little brat is around she derails EVERYTHING he needs to do for the day. We literally have ZERO money until I get paid tomorrow and I gave him my credit card so he can get his meds refilled... If I see ANYTHING that looks like him buying her lunch or ANYTHING with a card which is paid soley for by me... He is going to catch holy hell.
If only my DH would just
If only my DH would just throw her ugly, slutty ass out of the house.... Then he says 'She barely here".... EXACTLY, then why the hell should she have the priviledge to call our home hers when she: Doesn't Pay Rent, Help Around The House or Engage in anything family related if it doesn't revolved around her benefit????
She dropped out of HS before Junior Year and gets fired time after time from every job she had... Just fired from her last job for too many no call/no show... what the hell else does this idiot have to do with herself????
Loosing my damn mind and sick and tired of always being the villain.
Can I use this? This sounds
Can I use this? This sounds so close to my SD15 and by 18 I'm sure this will be exactly wat her life is going to turn out to be. She has already started and is getting worse despite intervention. I only have 2 1/2 tears till she is 18.
Then you are going to have to
Then you are going to have to throw her out. To protect yourself and your DH's mental health.
So... do it.