DH comes down so hard on my daughter
Back story: Hubby an I met and each had daughters from previous relationships. Then we had a baby together. Our oldest (my stepdaughter) is 7, our middle (my biodaughter) is 4, and our baby together is 18 months.
Anyhow, from the getgo I have had anger towards his discipline with my daugther. I always felt that he was too hard, too quick to judge, and too slow to forgive with her. He usually never agreed but would sometimes say "Well she gets into more stuff than SD7 does and doesn't listen as well." Pretty much an admission of his feelings that he believes his daughter is better/more well behaved than mine. But he'd also always add, "Just you wait, if we ever have a kid together, you'll see I do the same thing to him/her."
Well guess what? We had another kid. And...drumroll please...he lets our toddler throw fits like its nobody's business. And where he would have thrown Alaina in the corner and given her a swat, he just hugs the little one til she stops crying.
There are so many comparisons between the shitty way he treats her and the way he dotes on our other two that I can't even get into them all. But whenever I bring it up he says I am too focused on the negative and don't notice the good things. What do I say to that? I just want him to freaking lighten up! It's like, when my 4 year old asks me if she can "do something" he jumps right in and says no. But when the baby is whining with something...he always asks, well what should we do hunny? Like, don't fucking try and control the 4 year olds every damn move yet act like I got it under control for everything else.
I WANT TO SCREAM!!!!