Husband picks apart my biodaughter and thinks his daughter is perfect
When my husband and I met 3 years ago, we each had a daughter that we brought to the relationship. They were (and still are) very young at the time of us meeting. My bio daughter is now 3 1/2 years old, and my SD is almost 6. We also recently had a baby girl together who is three months old.
The problem is that I feel like my husband only sees the flaws in my bio daughter, and thinks that his bio daughter can do no wrong. For instance, his daughter has always been the older one and is terrible at sharing. Everything is "mine, mine, mine." I tried to address it with her from the getgo and he always would defend her saying, "Well it is hers, she needs to feel like she has her own stuff." Ok, fine. Well now fast forward to two years later and my daughter is doing the same thing now because she has grown up seeing that behavior and all of a sudden husband says "This not sharing behavior needs to be addressed, and he harps on my BD everytime she says 'mine.'" Completely frustrating. This is just one example in a series of many.
Today we had a huge blow up because he found fingerprints on the new flat-screen tv and "knew" it had to have been from my BD. He said "I'm going to have a stern talk with her when I see her next." How did he know it wasn't his perfect angel, I asked. And his response was that she doesn't do stuff like that. Oh really? A 5 year old is soooooo mature that they would never ever do such a thing.
I am so damn frustrated with this whole thing. He thinks his daughter can do no wrong and is constantly picking apart my little one. He always says its because my BD is "younger" and gets into more stuff, BUT his daughter was the same age mine is when we first met and he NEVER picked on her so much.
Sometimes it makes me want to run for the damn hills