Need some advice please!!??
Hello fellow SM's. So glad I found this place, wish I had found it YEARS ago. . .lol. Anyhow, my problem (one of many) is this: Darling SD is 16 going on either 12 or 20, depending on who she's dealing with. I have just had her living in my home for 2 weeks over Xmas, as she has break from her 'alternative school,' (don't even get me started), and her uncle got her a temp job in his store close to our home(SD and hamburger-brained BM live about 30kms away). Funny thing is DH works out of town and has been gone 10 days of the 2 weeks, so SD has been my resp. Good times. My biggest prob is not that she's entitled, selfish, sociopathic, lazy bitch. My problem is that while she was at my home, so was my MIL,who I love, but is kind of a different duck. Shes only 53 and I'm 36, so we're kinda more pals than anything.2 years ago SD decided that she wasnt coming for christmas even though it was 'our turn.' MIL talked to SD on the phone and SD was so horrible to MIL that MIL called SD a selfish bitch. Whoops. While I secretly applauded MIL, it did not go over well with the rest of the family. MIL apologized many times, but of course SD did not. This "child" gets away with murder. Anyway, during the visit SD was SO unacceptably rude to MIL that I don't even have to words to describe it. IHAVE TO SAY SOMETHING TO SD BECAUSE I HAVE EFFING HADIT!!!!!!!!! I let so many things go, but this makes me so crazy angry I want to punch SD in the face. DH is torn between knowing his child is borderline sociopathic and loving her unconditionally of course, so he cannot be relied on to discipline her appropriately. BM is Borderline Personality Disorder so no help there either. I have 8 years of history with this child and her mother so I am not using these terms lightly. I am also a Social Worker with some experience with personality disorders. I love my DH. and we have 2 beautiful girls together, but hadI been able to see the future I would have run away screaming like I was on fire.Anyway, not only was my SD totally horrible to her grandmother, she pilfered all my diet bars (4$ a pop), told me she could get her temp boss fired for harassment if he didn't change the music at the store to her liking, took money from my car cosole without asking, and was totally unkind to her kittle sisters. HELP!!!I need to say/do something, but I'm so stuck bc I'm married to her dad. Sorry this was so long but gawd, there's so much history!!!!!!!