Help on how to deal with persistent ex-wife
Dear all - I'm new to this site so apologies if I'm asking the question everyone has probably asked and discussed previously :O
I would love to read any opinions/thoughts on this one: I have been with my husband for 7 years. I met him when he was separating, he was miserable with his ex, he used to cry because his life with her was so bad (she didn't allow him to take the kids to his parents etc). Since we got together she's made our life hell. Suddenly she made best friends with my mum-in-law when she used to hate her, it's taken me years to win her trust. She's turned all my husband's friends against him (even though they're childhood friends, she wasn't around when they met), she's poisoned the children's minds with lies about their Dad (they think he curses their mum, doesn't give them money, cheated on her, he's the bad cop when making rules etc) and of course says I'm a witch that took him away and because of me he wouldn't forgive her. I've only seen them once and I don't think we'll ever be close. Even my sister-in-law talks to her more than she talks to me (in fact I don't see her anymore for this reason) as this woman keeps caling everyone (friends, family), trying to see them and become close to them so they tell her things about us and making them all feel guilty playing the victim. My mum-in-law is scared to say no to anything in case she brainwashes the children against her (for example she now comes to visit and stays at my in-laws with her new boyfriend - is this normal???!!). I'm helping my family-in-law in many ways, economically and spiritually and all I get is them going to her and gossiping, I can understand my mum-in-law as it's for the kids but my sister-in-law?
My husband has had countless confrontations with her, sent her a trillion emails and said really rude things to her (after trying to be nice) but nothing works, with him she acts nice and plays victim, denies all but she just wants him to be miserable. Some people are starting to tell her to let go as she has a man now (and had another one before) but she won't, I worry specially about the kids (2) as IT TEARS ME APART to think they'll grow up to think the worst of their Dad when he's such a great person and does so much for them. Also I feel she's laughing at us when coming to stay with her man, gossiping with my sister in law and stealing our friends. My husband says ignore her 100 %, but I can't seem to let go either. It's driving me mad
Please help :sick:
Thank you }:)