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Casey123's picture

So I expect to get skewered for this but maybe some advice as to what to do now. My brother was remarried 3 years ago. I am close to my ex sister-in-law and like my new one as well. They are a much better match and everyone is happy. Both sister-in-law and ex sister-in-law get along very well too. I gained a nephew when they were married and included him in my wedding. I go out of my way to buy him special gifts that he likes. I always include him when I do anything for the nephews i have had all my life. That said I posted something on facebook about how proud I was of my nephews for being such a good cousins the last 16 years to their cousin who is autistic. I tagged their mom and not their dad because he does not have facebook.

Tonight i got a text my brother that said nice post but she is not my wife and you left out your other nephew. I took the post down. I really wasn't trying to be mean. I am actually surprised she even cared enough to tell my brother. I did not mean to hurt her. She is good to my husband and I and I feel badly but also think my brother is over reacting. Should I reach out and apologize to my sister-in-law? I think I have a good relationship with her.

Casey123's picture

Yep, I agree I rarely post. My sister was having a bad day so I was trying to show her she has support.

Casey123's picture

Actually he is ten he is my brothers step son but to us he is a son and nephew. He just wrote me a note and said I am not mad i know you were not trying to be mean it just her feelings. I am going to drop her a note tomorrow. I am a second wife and not a lot bothers me but I suspect she was bothered for her son more than for herself.

Disneyfan's picture

Your SIL was being a petty, insecure ass.

Your post wasn't about her or her son. She took something innocent and turned into something ugly.

Casey123's picture

Thanks for all your comments. I sent my bro a note last night that I would never want to hurt sis-in-law. He wrote back that he knows that and she was having a rough day. I sent her a note this morning that I finished a project for her and was dropping it in the mail and was sorry about posting. She just wrote back all good and she is excited for it.

One note, I really hope my ex sis-in-law stays in our lives. She is a good person and they all get along. I think a lot of problems in divorces come from money. Luckily that is not an issue and they parent my nephews well. My ex sis-in-law will even take the new nephew when it makes sense - like to a birthday party, or a game. I think one feels like "he's her problem now" and the other feels like "I am lucky to have him". So this may be a rare case and will continue to work well and I will be careful not to make those mistakes again.

Rags's picture

Non issue. Edit your post and add your nephew and tag your newest SIL. End of problem. If they can't recognize that this is a non issue following that, fuck em. Call it a typo and move on.

In light of the immediately above comment... never mind.