In-laws spend every Christmas Eve at BM'S house
ClassyNJ's post struck a chord with me.
When DH and BM were married, my in laws and DHs extended family spent Christmas eve in BM and DHs home (now just BMs home). The Christmas after they divorced, DH and I were seriously dating. He was sad about losing the tradition so I invited his family to spend Christmas eve with us but since it was pretty last minute everyone declined because they already had plans.
My bios were with their dad so DH and I decided to go out to dinner and look at the Christmas lights. DH insisted on swinging by BMs house to surprise the skids - surely they would be missing out on Christmas eve because BM is not a Christian and doesn't celebrate Christmas. I remember being thrilled with this because it was another chance to impress the skids with how cool we were. We pulled up to BMs house and there must have been 15 cars in the street. That's right, we saw DHs family - cousins, aunts, uncles, the in laws, plus all of BMs family and the skids- having Christmas eve dinner, as always, at BMs. DH was shocked and angry and has spoken to them about this several times since but to this day the tradition has never changed.
My in-laws excuse at the time was they wanted to spend Christmas eve with their grandchildren, and since the CO gave BM Christmas eve every year and DH Christmas day, they were going to be at BMs. DH really thought we had a chance this year because of our baby, who is their grandchild, but nope, already got the email from MIL that they are going to BMs.