SD has Unleashed the Beast
SD15stb16 has not said a word about DH paying or not paying for college since her PSAT celebration dinner. In the end it worked out so Princess Perfect doesn't have to contribute a dime anyway - so no one had any reason to mention it to her or for her to care who. I assumed that this wasn't even on her radar. She is back this week and she knows about DH's email to BM and she is making sure we know how angry she is.
Old SD was passive agressive and mostly silent. She made me feel uncomfortable in my own home through subtle microagressions. We are now experiencing Day 6 of New SD. New SD is vocal and mean. Her wrath until yesterday was limited to DH and me (and insulting DS1 through me). The gist of it is she is furious that I dared to have an opinion about her college tuition. I should have no say on her future or anything to do with her life. And she said that to my face using horrible and vile language. DH is having lots of talks with her and nothing is making a dent. He says she just has to get it all out of her system and we need to give it some more time.
Last night DD13 was in tears when I got home. DD would not tell me what was wrong and she would not come out of her room for dinner. I brought her a plate and she only ate the vegetables which set off alarm bells in my head. I asked SS12 if anything happened after school and he said he had no idea but he has his headphones on most of the time at home. I'm fairly sure SD said something or several somethings to DD about her weight. DD has gained weight in the past year I are working with her to make healthier choices. I am trying to lose baby weight myself, so I am right there with her. We go to classes at the Y, we are eating healthier and she is losing slow and steady, the healthy way. I went back to DD and asked her if SD said anything that upset her and she said no but she wouldn't look at me and started crying again.
I confronted SD who was doing homework in the living room and she said she had no idea what was wrong. I said, so you didn't say anything to her about her weight. SD said she didn't say anything, but if DD was upset about her weight it wouldn't surprise her, and maybe DD had finally realized if she kept shoving food in her fat face that she would end up with disgusting cottage cheese thighs and a stretch mark covered body just like her mother.
I told her to apologize right now and go to her room. She used her apology to make more insults about my body. Then she said she WAS actually sorry DD was so fat, especially at such a tough age when kids can be so cruel. She laughed and said, oh right, you know all about that.
I walked away because I was about to completely lose it on her. I called DH who was working late and demanded that he come home and deal with her. By the time he got home an hour later she was already in her room watching TV. He said he was sorry but at this point there was nothing he can do, I wanted her in her room and she's in her room. They already had a therapy appointment lined up (happening right now) and he is going in with her and they would talk it out.
DH slept on the couch. I didn't even ask, he said I have been kicking and punching him in my sleep. Good. He has been informed that after therapy unless there are sincere apologies he should make sure SD stays scarce.