Another wonderful family dinner
Yesterday was FIL's birthday. SO and I took FIL and MIL (SO's SM) out to dinner.
Every time I see MIL she does nothing but talk about BM and seems to need to tell me "8 is enough" ALL the time. (Her bio daughter has 4 kids, SO has 2 and BM has 2 from another relationship) Is she trying to tell me not to have children with SO? I don't know.
Anyway, before we left for dinner, SO said he would try to steer any conversation MIL brings up about BM to a different conversation. Ha yeah right
The waitress hadn't even brought our drinks and FIL asked how Skids are doing. Pretty normal. SO and MIL go on a rant about how horrible BM is. Right before our food arrives FIL finally says, Well she's been like this for many years now. All you can really do is what you have been doing. Be the best dad you can, be there for the kids. This won't last forever. (SO's mom was crappy too. FIL has some experience at this)
SO is so caught up in talking about BM he barely eats any of his food. This BM talk goes on until right before we leave and the discussion turns to BM's older daughter (SO's EXSD) who now lives with SO's parents.
I barely spoke the entire dinner. When we get in the car, SO says he is sorry the conversation was so much about BM.
This entire situation pissed me off for obvious reasons. I have told SO time and again that he can do what's he wants but actions have consequences. I will never go to dinner with SO and MIL again. This isn't an isolated occurrence. Good lord, it's been 5 years. The in-laws know!
I feel like his mind is filled with BM as soon as he gets around MIL. (Maybe always?) I can guarantee BM has never gone to dinner and let the entire conversation center around SO. Are we going to be in our 60's out to dinner with SS and SD and the entire conversation is going to be about BM and what a crappy mom she was?