This Can't Be My Life
After having had 2 step-weekends in a row and working out of town for 50+ hours a week, I was soooo looking forward to spending some quality time with DH. We planned our whole weekend and even though alot of it included regular old errands (finish our baby registry, get a hair cut, etc.) we were both excited about it. We went to a nice dinner on Friday night and had just gotten home when DH received a frantic call from him ex-MIL.
This weekend was BM's weekend but SD9 had texted ex-MIL asking her to please please please come pick her up because her mom was drunk again and she was scared. Ex-MIL and ex-FIL are apparently fighting with BM and she told them she would not give them the girls if they came to pick them up. Apparently she was more than willing to give them to DH for whatever reason so at 11pm he gets out of bed to go get them. By the time he gets back it's 1am (BM lives 1 hour away) and I wake up to him making them something to eat before bed since she didn't bother to give them dinner.
Once he is back in bed he tells me that ex-MIL had been covering for BM for a long time. She has gone to pick up or drop off or visit the girls, only to find BM passed out on the lawn or locked in her bedroom with the girls sitting in front of the tv. She said ex-FIL got into a huge argument with BM in which he called her an unfit mother and an alcoholic. Ex-MIL then tells DH that she wants him to take custody of the girls or to help her get custody so that they are not with their mother any more.
Right now, the plan is to take temporary custody SD9 since she is the only one currently living with ex-MIL and then go for the other girls in BM's care. A friend of mine works in Child Protective Services and told us that we need to start making a police report every time she is passed out drunk with her kids in her home so that her alcoholism is documented since alcoholism is so hard to prove. DH is going to try and have a conversation with BM, but assuming she is a mentally unstable alcoholic it will be interesting to see the results of this discussion.