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Yet Another Step Weekend In The Making

the_stepmonster's picture

Given that after this weekend the baby can pretty much come at any time, DH and I are taking the steps two weekends in a row. If you remember last weekend is when SD10 committed charity fraud and collected money for Kony 2012 and then subsequently spent it on herself. I have told DH that I am not comfortable with this and he should take it up with her but I'm sure he won't. Heaven forbid he get after her. I had to blow a gasket in order for him to ban her from using permanent marker when drawing on our now ruined white dining table.

Anywho, my family is having a huge party this weekend at their ranch with tons of kids, activities, food, etc. DH and I have been looking forward to this for months and we are taking the steps. I can already see how this will play out though. SD10 will insist on sitting in DH's lap and possibly laying her head in his lap, despite there being tons of kids, a moon bounce, face painting, snow cones, etc. SD11 will spend all her time asking if there is any Guitar Hero she can play. SD5 will be well-behaved because she has spent the least amount of time being damaged by her mother. I think I am going to have to talk with DH about setting some ground rules before we go over there.

- No lap sitting, especially for the gigantic children.
- No whining or complaining.
- If they are tired, they can go take a nap in one of the guest bedrooms. Napping in my husband's crotch is not an option.
- The adults will decide what time we go home, not the children.
- They are more than welcome to play all they want! PLEASE! Jump in the bouncy house! Run around with other kids! Eat sugar so that they have an inevitable sugar crash on the way home! Just so long as they leave us the F alone for five minutes.

Man, I really need to have this baby already.

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dont know what to do's picture

I can understand what you are saying but I've always found that setting ground rules before we go somewhere doesn't set well with DH. He thinks I'm anticipating things to happen instead of just waiting to see how it goes. I wish you the best of luck. Maybe you should just wait until you get there, maybe think good thoughts...lol

Helena.Handbasket's picture

I hate to say it but dont know is right. If you already start before anything is going on, DH will just be annoyed. All that ends up happening when we do things like this is make us look like we are the bad guys picking on the poor children. In the future, I'd just go to my family stuff and not invite skids. I can't stand "family outings" with them. I don't like being made to look bad.

Unless dad is going to say something there isn't anything you can do about the lap sitting. Sorry.

As far as the table and permanent marker, my furniture isn't messed with and I would have blown up at a child for that. Waiting for their dad to do anything is like waiting for paint to dry.

the_stepmonster's picture

Meh, DH actually didn't want the kids this weekend because he was excited about the event also and said if he brings them he won't be able to enjoy himself. His words. And all these things that I have mentioned are repeated behaviors that happen EVERYWHERE we go with them. Hell they even happen at home. He knows his kids are brats but is having a hard time transitioning from guilty daddy to enforcement daddy. It was actually worse before the custody modification went through. The only reason we have them this weekend is because I told him I absolutely did not want him having to rush them to their grandparents house 1.5 hours away when I go into labor which is likely to happen in the next couple of weeks.

Also, considering I am about to pop, I think I should take advantage of the situation and let my bitch flag fly while I still have an excuse. LOL

Dogmom126's picture

I don’t see what is so wrong about enforcing ground rules before an event in order to make sure everyone enjoys themselves??? Me and my SO have done this many times and we no longer have to because my fSD7 has learned how we expect her to behave. However me and my SO are on the same

page which is important .