or if this is really as stupid as I feel it is. So, DH asks me about 4 hours before I have to go to work (graveyard shift) if I am going to put up the Christmas tree. Mind you, I have had this tree for probably 10 years and it is a royal pain in the @ss to assemble and takes forever since the color code is missing and most of the color has come off the thing and it takes me a good couple of hours to do so and then go through all the strands of lights, make sure they work, etc. The reason he asks is because he wants to make sure ss7 feels like a part of decorating the tree. As I look at the clock, I say "uh not today". He says well maybe I will put it up. Yeah....sure.... none of the other kids are there, but the baby. I wouldn't be home to decorate it either. I would have to re decorate it and put things in places that the baby couldn't get, remove the toys he sticks on every year (and I have to hear "where did ___ go?" "why isn't ____ on it anymore?") So, DH wants to make sure ss7 has part in it, but with no one else? WE live there full time, so why does he get to do it and then I have to re do it? I try to make sure we do at least one family Christmas activity with as many of the kids together as possible (we have never had all five in one place) so it isn't like I am saying I don't want him involved in anything. But, really? I have 4 hours before work and you want me to take three of them to set things up so only ss7 can do something?? Uh no. Pretty sure I will be asked again tomorrow before SS7 goes home too because I am quite positive the thing WON'T be set up when I get home in the morning. Am I being too bitchy?