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Decorating the Christmas....how can that go wrong?

loulou87's picture

I put up the Christmas tree on Friday night. I always put up the tree with only the lights and wait for ALL the girls to be here so that we can decorate the tree together. Decorating the Christmas tree is a big deal for me. Don't know why but it always has been and I love doing it.

I was trying to determine when we could all decorate and with three busy girls (SD13, BD13 and BD10) it was decided that it would be Sunday at 8:00pm. All girls were informed that this was when we would do it.

At 8:00pm I call to everyone to gather round the tree. SD13 refuses to join us. SO is in her room telling her to come and join us and she is arguing that she does not want to decorate "the stupid christmas tree". She is whining and pitching a fit like a toddler. Finally he comes out and I just look at him....seriously....I knew this would happen.

I know what the problem is....she complained last year that she does not have any christmas ornaments at our house. Sad thing is SO did not get any of the ones they made as kids in the property settlement but for the past three years me, my mom and my grandma have given them each an ornament and they have about 12 from their grandma. Also, we made some the first christmas we were all together so that the entire tree would not be my ornaments.

I have always put all the ornaments in the same box. Last year when I took down the tree I boxed theirs seperate because she had made a comment about not having any ornaments. I had to show here which were hers.

I handed the box of ornaments to SO and said "please take these to her, they are your ornaments, I boxed them separate last year because it was an issue".

Is he thankful that I remembered and took the time to do that....NO....he is mad because I made the division between "theirs" and "ours".

But.....she did come out and hang her ornaments on the tree.

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Auteur's picture

As a SM you can't win. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. I have all of GG's "souvenirs" in his own personal box in the attic. NOT comingled with my stuff from my grown bios.

I think there's an xmas ornament of his showing him "helping" VD in preschool on an art project. VD is now 13 and totally PASed out.

Needless to say, it's probably in the attic as we speak at the bottom of his box

purpledaisies's picture

just don't include her. i would tell my dh NOW that next year she will not be included b/c every time I do she has an attitude like this and will not deal with or have my kids exposed it especially around the holidays! Put the ball in his court and tell him that if he wants to include her then he can but you are not.