Need to get things off my chest
New to this site, but going insane at home and needed someplace to get it out. Step-mother to 3 grown children (all in their 20's), no kids of my own. Been married for over a decade.
Youngest (F21) just moved in with us. I am ready to move out. Seems that I can't do anything right, and my mental health is suffering thanks to her. Every word that comes out of her mouth makes me want to roll my eyes. Every day there is a new fear, allergy, complaint, health issue, etc., etc., etc. As far as I can tell, the only thing that is really wrong with her is that she is a self-obsessed, attention seeking brat.
Apparently, that is just the way that 20-somethings are these days and I'm just supposed to ignore it and let it go. Easier said than done when it changes what I get to eat, where I get to go, and how much time I get to spend with my husband. She's just ALWAYS there since she moved in. No friends, no hobbies, no plans to move out. She got a part time job and then made sure to arrange her schedule so that she only works when I work so that she can always be home for us to feed her or take her out to dinner or ruin whatever TV show we wanted to watch that night. She NEVER shuts up and I just don't want to hear it anymore.
I suppose I'm probably the asshole here. Her BM is a real piece of work and didn't make things easy for any of the kids. But I am failing to understand how it is MY responsibility to clean up these adult messes. I didn't make them, why are they my problem?
I love my husband dearly, but he coddles them. I just want my house and my adult relationship back. Not sure what I'm looking to get out of posting this, just needed to scream into the void I guess!