SK's excluding my BD from milestone events
My SD is getting married and one of my BD's is one of the bridesmaids. My SD has lived with me and both of my BD's and all had a good relationship. My oldest even tried to help with her wedding but no response. She is having a bridal shower soon and my Oldest BD never received an invite. My BD that is in the wedding is not happy about it and she is not going since it was last minute and neither me or her sister are going. I was contemplating if I should speak to my DH about this because we had this conversation about excluding me and my daughters from his children's events. Every time we have an event or my daughter's have something they always invite her. I even included her in my wedding because I wanted her to feel apart of the family. I told her I was going to have her in my wedding no questions asked. Now that she is dealing with her BM again, she is excluding us and it is kind of hurtful. I was there for her the first 6 years of my dh and I relationship. When her mother was not around I was there to help whenever she needed. We were not even included in the surprise engagement. Her fiance knows all of us , been to our events, and just being in our home on holidays and etc. We were hurt behind that. I decided to speak to my DH about it because right is right and wrong is wrong. No one in the past wanted to say anything about her actions because they didn't want tension in the house. Now that everyone is on their own, I feel like it needs to be addressed. Am I wrong for speaking to him about this?
I personally do not care if I dont attend the Bridal shower since the BM will there. I just wished that she could have talked to me about why she was not inviting me. She is very spoiled and feels she is a Princess since all the men in her life (father, fiance' and brothers) caters to her. Sometimes I think DH thinks she does no wrong. I already see that I may be disengaging after this wedding.