Wedding - would you go?
Hi! I have 3 adult skids, who all hate me. The oldest, 30 is getting married in a few weeks. I have been with her Dad since she was 13 and she has hated me ever since the day we got married (but not before!). You would think over the years she would get over it, but she hasn''t! She cannot come up with one reason why she hates me. I tried for many years to build a relationship with all of them.. For years she wouldn't even look at me. I've given up a few years ago and realised we will never have a relationship.
So for her bridal shower she invited pretty much every female who will be attending the wedding, including my BD's who are 12 and 14. But excluded me. At the wedding I will be excluded from the family photos, won't be permitted to sit in the front row with my DH and BD's and the rest of the family. She will exclude me from everything possible. It will be humiliating.
Should I go? Should I put it back on her eg text her and ask if she would like me to attend or not and tell her I won't go if she doesn't want me there? (I know already she doesn't want me there). Should I just be 'sick' on the day?
My concern is how it looks to the rest of the family and to my BD's if I'm not there. Should I just do the right thing and not make drama and just go? My DH is ok if I decide not to go, he is aware of how awful the day will be for me. But at the same time it is a bit upsetting that this is just another thing they would have successfully excluded me from. My BD's are in the wedding and I would miss seeing that.