O/T She got the offer!!!!! ..... and......
She is balking at taking it.
She is so stressed she is struggling with basic decissioning much less on a career move.
I need to take some deep breaths and figure out how to support her through this new stress.
I knew that the offer would be a double edges sword. Too good to turn down, but forces her to leave. Which just drives even more guilt and stress. An even bigger issue is that the new firm has offered to let her work through Tax season at her current firm.
Damn it!!!!! She did not even ask. They just offered. She needs to go and go now. Take a month off to find her happy place, then kick off a great new phase of her career.
But... not my call.
Then.... the Cardiologist this AM said they are not worried about her heart. But ordered a full cardio stress test for next month. Which just freaked her out more.
Docs do not worry me. But then again I have been put through the wringer quarterly for the last 42+ years with exams, tests, etc, etc..... Information does not bother me. I use it to make decisions. For DW, at this point, it just adds more stress, anxiety, and guilt about it all. Just distracting her from working herself to death. Which for some reason seems to be her focus.
I am excited, and frustrated. She will kick ass in the new role at a new firm.