Oh the manipulation and coddling
When SD13 got in trouble last Monday, she said the magical words that now have DH coddling her and refusing to tell her no. She told DH "I know you don't love me". *eyeroll*. Her reasons are "he never goes up to her bedroom to talk to her, and never asks her to play board games, she always has to ask him". I told her that she is 13- when we were her age we were in our rooms and parents didn't come to sit and talk and ask to play games. I mean for real. We had our own lives! This is all Crazy talking anyway, telling SD DH is a terrible parent because he doesn't do these things. SD knows damn well DH loves her, but it's a great attention-seeking statement to say he doesn't.
Well as the week went on, I have watched DH play game after game with SD every time she asks- (daily). He played a fricking Hatchimals game with her because "SD wanted to". She's 13- this is a game for young kids, she got it when she was 7 or 8. She sat in his spot on the couch and he didn't make her move (he always makes them move). She asked if Crazy could pick her up from our house (which DH and I have agreed we don't want- SS16 can drive them to her house) and DH told her yes, even though SS was driving past Crazy's house 20 mins before Crazy was picking SD up so it was completely unnecessary. This caused an argument with DH and I.
Yesterday my whole family was over, we have a garage with a bar and have it all set up with a fire pit/table, cornhole, tv with sports on, etc. SD played cornhole and then when everyone was standing at the bar, sat at a couch in the back alone. DH saw and immediately went over to sit with her, away from everyone, rather than saying "hey come over by everyone". He always does this at gatherings. SD sits away from everyone, and he goes to her (which means leaving me at his family gatherings) rather than telling her to come by everyone else.
DH had his pissy pants on for a bit yesterday and went into the house to watch the basketball game so he could hear, and I look in and within seconds of him being in there, SD had asked him to play a game. So they sat in the living room away from everyone else playing a game because DH just can't tell her no, or that maybe it's not the time because we have guests.
When I was her age I was nothing like this, and it absolutely drives me nuts that she expects DH to be her entertainment, doesn't hang out with friends, and DH is going along with it 100% and coddling her even more. She has learned that if she says he doesn't love her, she gets all the attention. I wanted to scream yesterday.