It’s literally always something
I feel like I could write a blog every day with all the crap going on. This past week:
SD13 told us Crazy yells at her every time she has a Dr. Appt (which is a lot) because she has to take off work, and she complains that I should be taking her to some of these appts. In Crazy's mind, she gets to repeatedly tell everyone that I'm not a mom or parent, have no right to teach SD anything mom-related, BUT, I should be a taxi when it benefits her. I told SD I was pretty sure her mom would lose her mind if I took her to an appt, and DH agreed. SD said, no she wants you to. I said, "too bad! After the way she has treated me and continues to treat me, I'm not doing anything to help her. I'm here to support your dad- if he ever can't take you to an appt on his time, I will, but I'm not here to take off work to make your moms life easier". Sorry not sorry, and I hope she tells Crazy what I said. We've told her this same thing via OFW, but she apparently thinks it's logical to yell at SD for it and for having to take her to appts that SHE SCHEDULED.
The roller-coaster with SD continues- she used to tell me she loves me and hugged me goodnight every night. Stopped that. Started again occasionally a few months ago, and now we are back to her completely ignoring me when she says goodnight. She comes up to DH next to me, hugs him and says goodnight/love you, and walks away. She did it last night and DH looked at me after and said "Did you get anything"? I said, nope. We have been talking about it and he doesn't understand why she acts the way she does either. He did tell me the other day that I shouldn't bother wasting my time going to SD's Christmas concert- she asked if we were going, but DH has to work so I told her to text me when it is and maybe I will. DH told me later not to bother- it won't be appreciated and doesn't seem to matter to her, so I shouldn't go out of my way for her. I appreciate DH saying that. I will not be attending. He knows her behavior is hurtful to me. I try so hard with this girl. I'm always there to talk to, help her with girl things, give her my old clothes and do nice things for her, and while she is polite and knows she can talk to me, I'm definitely considered minimally important. Time to stop trying, because it's exhausting and hurtful.
SK's went to Crazy's today and I am so nervous about this SS/Crazy fiasco. DH basically sent SS back there. SS said he talked to Crazy for a minute and she asked if he was staying with us FT- SS said no because papers haven't been filed. DH told him to listen to her, follow rules, and we'll see how it goes. I am terrified she is going to relinquish all custody. If she does, there would be no choice but to take him, and I'm so afraid of what that would do to my marriage. We would have to have a real come to Jesus about rules and consequences.
Oh! And I almost forgot that while DH, SD and I were out shopping, having lunch and bowling, SS called DH to ask if he could have his gf come over while we were gone. They have been together a month and we met her once for 5 seconds. DH and I are 100% on the same page that we will do whatever it takes to not have a skid get pregnant/get someone else pregnant. Aside from Skids moving in FT, this is my biggest fear. We have a "bedroom door must be cracked" rule when girls are over. Lots of lectures and talks from DH to skids. So DH tells SS he will talk to me and let him know. I said, you could have handled that one, that's an obvious no. He said he was going to tell him yes, unless I disagreed. I said, are you serious??? You want them to have the whole house to themselves?! That's a hell no. He text SS no, but of course it looks like I'm the bad guy. Why did DH think this would be ok, you ask? Because "I've talked to him about not having sex". Ok DH, and teens listen to that! I don't even care if I'm the bad guy, I am however shocked and disappointed at DH's level of misguided trust.
My steplife-induced anxiety pills cannot keep up with this.