SD60 was here today doing some cleaning (her suggestion). As usual, I was polite, civil and non-committal. The backstory is that after a long mini-wife career, SD had to move in with us 5 years ago when she'd been booted out of her apartment and had no money. The 10 months she was here, our lives were a hell of watching her drug use, hearing her lies and watching my possessions disappear. She does have physical and mental problems that put her on disability. After 10 months, we moved her to quarters we subsidize. DH and I separated finances at that point. She's been her usual self these last years with her emotional outbursts and poor judgment.
She just called me crying. Says she just needs somebody to talk to, so depressed. Recitation of meds that don't work. Rehash of car crash 2 months ago, Worry about her daughter. Thinks she shouldn't be living alone. Is there someplace she could go where they'd make sure she ate and slept. I listened but said very little. Her psychiatrist appointment is tomorrow. I urged her to just get thru to tomorrow, tell the doctor about her wreck (and to me sounds like PTSD) and get a new referral to a therapist. Shes also having a recurrence of a physical problem, I suggested she call that doctor for treatment.
I'm trying to stay strong and stay out of it. Anybody else, I'd be doing daily follow up calls (I did this with my depressed sister for 15+ years) but I know SD60, 2 hours from now, she could be out shopping and happy and I'd still be here worrying. I'm definitely not following up on any hints about her moving back here. Aside from the fact that I dont like or trust her, I've got my mom98 in long-term and DH is 84, I have enough going on.
I know many of you have dealt with depression. If anybody has any suggestions, I'd be grateful. Thanks.