Struggles with youngest stepdaughter
I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. I have known him for almost 5 years. He was an amzing single dad and has done great taking care of his two girls on his own. We have hung out with the kids a few times when we first got together and I knew right away the youngest was going to be the issue.
She is am extreme daddies girl and can do no wrong in his eyes. Things always got semi-bumpy when the 7SD would act like a brat when I was around. She would bully my 8 yr old daughter and just say awful rude things to her at times. SHe would throw fits and try to say that she won't get out of her dad bed because I was staying over. She acted like a complete and total ass and would be extrememly disrespectful to me for the first few months of our relationship.
She has gotten drastically better since those days, but she still tells her father and I's business to everyone. She runs her mouth and starts drama between everyone in the house when she gets bored. Her dad automatically takes her side as well, and then acts like I'm always the bad guy. We talk it over and things get a bit better, but the one sure fix if he would say something to the kid. She is only 7 and it's not all the time, but it happened so much at first that I believe the bridge has been burnt. I can't get past this grudge or feeling of ill-will towards the girl.
She always over-dramatizes everything that I say or do. In example, I asked her to step out of her father and my room so I can change clothes. She calls her dad and tells him that I told her to "get out" rudely. My daughter struggles a bit with reading and when they were playing school, she made a remark about my kid being slow. Joe and I were telling the kids that we didn't have any extra money to buy school clothes until this weekend and she tells her nana that we are completely broke. She will lie on her sisters to get both of them in trouble.
We normally can get past her antics and things will be great, but here lately I don't even care if we are okay. I just am completely over her as a person. I don't think I can see past it. I just am so beyond annoyed with her and I do not care to even try with her anymore. I really just do not care for her in any way. I do not wish any ill-will and I am so over feeling this way.
It sucks because I am pregnant with a boy, which my boyfriend and I have always wanted, but I am just don't want him to turn out like her and I really don't even want her around him. I don't regret being pregnant, but I hate that she will be his sister. I just wish she would move in with her mom.