telling kids their father is in prison
Hi all! Quick back story for those who don't know, my ex DH and I are divorced due to his drug addiction and he is currently in prison (drug related charges). We have 2 kids - 5 and 1 year old. He has been telling our 5 year old he is at work and I have been going along with it but I am fed up. He is not expected to be out until March (he has been there since this past February). She does not believe his story. She doesn't understand why she can't see him or call him.
I spoke to a child counselor who recommended telling her the truth as she is going to think he doesn't want to see her or that I am keeping her from seeing him but she said he should be a part of telling her. I talked to him about it and he does not want to tell her but doesn't care if I tell her. I don't feel like it is my responsibility to tell her! He is there because of his own actions and I think he should explain himself (in an age appropriate way, of course).
His birthday and father's day are coming up and she is NOT going to understand why she can't see him unless something is said. He will also miss both the kid's birthdays and all of the holidays.
Any advice or ideas?