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JRI's picture

SD59 is on disability which she receives around the first.  She is usually broke by month end and I've noticed a pattern where we hear some fantastic, tragic, emergency or stupid story in the last few weeks of the month.  The goal is to soften up DH so he will give her more money.  In the last few months, we've heard about the new man who bestowed lavish gifts only to be outed as a married cheater (probably an internet hookup that didnt work out).  Then there was the fantasy Christmas party she planned to host for family.  The topper was the dramatic story of her daughter's cancer diagnosis and imminent death, later found to be a treatable digestive disorder.

So, she has been radio silent for weeks.  Today, the 25th, she called DH and I overheard his side of a long conversation.  She spoke a long time and I could hear alarm in his voice as he asked her questions.  When he got off the phone, he said she was coming over tomorrow to cut his hair.

Place your bets now, folks.  What will the story be this month?

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Jcksjj's picture

She rescued a starving kitten and spent all her money at the vet and nursing it back to health just for it to accidentally get outside and run over by a car.

Stepdrama2020's picture

and being the good samaratin she chased that car down. Now she suffers from PTSD and has flashbacks and just cant cope.  So now she is broke and broken . 

JRI's picture

I wish she were only smoking pot.  There are other pharmaceuticals going on.....

queensway's picture

HMM well a least you are smart enough to know that. So the best thing you can do is call her bluff every month.

JRI's picture

Ive been in her life for almost 50 years and its taken me a very long time to begin to understand.  Ive so often been sucked into her fantasies.  Nowadays, I am detached from her, I don't even react to anything she says.  I have to have independent verification of everything.  But mostly, I dont even bother with that, I just disbelieve everything.   My only concern is the effect on my 83yo DH.

queensway's picture

You put up with this for almost 50 years. I now claim you as ST. JRI. That is a long time to deal with this sh!t. I feel bad that your DH has to deal with this too. Life at 83 should not have to deal with a daughter at 59 who doesn't have herself together. That is just sad.

CLove's picture

Or relationship related. Because thats how she rolls. Lets see, shes run through the cancer, and run through the I want to do something nice for FAMILY and then the emotional devastation of the man she wanted to marry being married.

I think this next one is the married cheater is stalking her and since shes disabled is unable to escape him. A little bit of fear sprinkled with victimology.

JRI's picture

Health is the old stand-by.  Her default is, " I don't have money for my medicine".  I'm thinking this one might be car trouble.  I think DH said something about her car.  

advice.only2's picture

Sad I had a friend like this, she only wanted to "hang out" about mid month, and usually she would need something, be it gas money, groceries for her kids, or would I be willing to float her some anti anxiety meds till the next month.

JRI's picture

That's a bummer but so familiar.  What happened to her?

advice.only2's picture

The friendship ended after she felt I wasn't giving her enough anymore so she moved onto other friends who could satisfy her needs. Really it's very sad, she has valid disabilities, but is also addicted to pain meds. I see her on local pages for social media asking for donations of clothes and such and people provide for her and then I see her selling the same items she was provided a month later trying to turn a profit. She also always has some crisis, be it her vehicle or her child who are in desperate need right then and there and people will provide and then the next month it will be the same issue.

Survivingstephell's picture

Is it clear to her that after daddy is gone she is cut off from any help?  Is he setting her up for that day?    I worry that she will become a parasite on You and there will be no escape from stephell 

 

JRI's picture

Yes, if DH passes, she will have a problem.  It wont be my problem because I will move closer to one of my bios.  No way would I put myself in the position of being an old person dependent on her loving care.  She has 3 adult kids.  #1 isnt in much better condition than SD altho she has a good heart.  #2 son is kind of detached.  #3 is a teacher and new mom.  We have talked about her mom's future.  I told her a couple years ago, "Get married, have your career, buy a house, have your kids.  We are handling your mom for now but you know you'll have to step in eventually".  This daughter doesnt take any sh*t from her mom so that will be interesting but sadly, I will be out of town and won't see it.  Lol.

justmakingthebest's picture

I am thinking health.... Disability won't cover a perscription that she can't live without and it is $937 a month! She will die without it. "daddy, don't let me die!"

JRI's picture

Sounds good so maybe she can keep that one for another month.  This time, it's car trouble.  She got DH to agree to an early payment for his haircut today so he raced out yesterday to meet her at their midpoint meeting place, a library parking lot.  Half an hour later he called, she wasnt there, worry and concern in his voice.  Had I heard from her?  "No, why don't you call her".  Her phone was messed up, like usual, he couldnt get thru.  So he came home.  She called later and off he went again, successful money transfer this time.  She had had tire problems (long story illustrating she is a victim of others' incompetence) .  Oh, and she cant make it here today, has several appointments.  

Just another day in SD wonderland.