Car Money - A Vent
So finances, obviously a disagreement in most marriages... Causes AT LEAST a little bit of contention. Typically, our finances are seperate. He pays certain bills, I pay certain bills, we split groceries and we do what we want with the rest. (never much... I try and put some up, right now I'm paying for school and two cars though... So....)
So my little car died. we're talking dead-dead, even if I had the money, it would cost more than the car is WORTH to get it fixed died. So I replaced it with a new one, BUT I still owed on the last one. So I took out a short-term personal loan to cover the rest of what I owed so I could get a title, and found someone who would come and get the car, pay me some money (thankfully, more than I was expecting!), and I signed over the title.
So yesterday they came and picked up the car, awesome. Yay for having money! Took the morning off work to sign over the car and get the check.
SO DH turns to me: "So we can use this money for the girls for Christmas. LIke we can divide it in half and there's Christmas. The. He!!???? I told him no, he's pissed, but so am I. I have made EVERY payment on this car, I make more money so I've been paying a large chunk of bills, buy very few things for myself, and am financially stretched as thin as I can go right now, and here we are, him thinking MY CAR MONEY (which I still have to pay on the dang car) should go to THE KIDS for Christmas. OH, then I was like "well I need it, and besides, I have to figure out Christmas for you." And he said "well we don't need anything for Christmas." MY A$$. Last year he tried to ask for money from me so he could get me Christmas. NO. I don't need something crazy, but I'm not paying for my own damn s***fucking Christmas. So no, this year, he can make that up to me, and actually GET ME SOMETHING BESIDES A PRINT OF A SHARK (which I did love... But the fact he was buying himself so much s*** and thought I should pay him so he would have more money for me, pissed me off).
To top it off, I forgot to dress up today (I always try and dress nice on 9/11 in memory...) because I was dealing with kids, DH wouldn't get out of bed, and SD10 was trying to tell me there was a coyote outside that was going to get her (I checked... It was a dog, a friendly one at that... And also... The coyote isn't going to eat her... They're skittish and run off...) so she almost missed the bus. Meanwhile I've told DH to get up and help like 6 times, but he was up so late playing his stupid a$$ video game ad likely took sleeping pills to sleep, so he was basically dead.
AND last night, I got home from work and the gym, exhausted and starving... No food... Okay... Walk into the bedroom. SD6 is in there EATING FOOD IN THE BED AND WATCHING TV, Then Dh pops behind me, "don't worry, I told her she could." So then we argued about that, becuase we've forking discussed this. The kid doens't need to 1) be hanging in our room, and 2) EATING FOOD IN THE BED (and leaving crumbs everywhere). So then I throw food in the instant pot, kick SD6 out of the room and start studying. I leave for a minute to check on food and take a small study break. Come back, SD6 has come back is trying ot turn her forking show back on. So I kick her out again and tell her not to go back in there. Where is DH? Playing his dumb game.
So the dinner is done, which I thought was delicious. Did everyone else? Of course not. Why? Because it was Medditeranian lemon garlic chicken and potatoes... And it had zuchinni and bell peppers in it. So apparently that was gross, and they shouldn't have to eat that, and why is there green stuff? And DH even started telling me how the chicken was tender, but the skin was flavored and the inside was bland, and I didn't need to put veggies in there. Fork that crap. It's what I made, I enjoyed it, and they can cook for themselves if they hate it so much.
Anyways, I'm a lovely flaming ball of rage today. Thanks for letting me vent. There were some good things in there, And besides yesterday and this morning I have to admit DH has been stepping it up a lot. BUT I'm not in the mood to talk about that, I'm too busy being pissed off right now.