So I started couple's counseling with BF 3 weeks ago and its been going okay so far. I like the advice she's given us about our relationship, and it's working in the sense that it's helping us rebuild our relationship and make it stronger. She's given us great tips about what we can do to improve ourselves and we've both been taking action, so there's hope for us. We are actually going away for a couples weekend this weekend, and for the first time in over 8 months, I'll have BF all to myself for an entire weekend!!! No DD (though I love her dearly and will miss her) and no skids!!! We both needed it and it should be great for our relationship.
However, what I don't appreciate is how so far during the sessions the spotlight is mostly on me, and BF gets to sit there barely saying anything, when it comes to talking about his 2 kids. Everytime I mention things his kids have done that I don't like it's always about what I could've done better and never about what BF could also have done better, I mean they are HIS kids after all. I actually stormed out of the session for a few minutes today because I felt like once again we were talking about his kids and she just kept pointing out everything I did wrong and what I should've done but never once mentioned what BF should've done too. I have had to defend myself and I know I need to be better at setting my own boundaries with his kids but BF needs to step in and correct them too. Why should it always just be me?? I mean She didn't say anything about him needing to set rules, change his parenting ways, and stop being a guilty Disney daddy and allowing his kids to disrespect me. Does she think because I'm future stepmom that I'm supposed to be doing the parenting, while dad gets to sit back and do nothing??