Need advice about schedule change
My SS(12) has asked for a week to week schedule in order to reduce moving around. Currently, we split the week down the middle. During the summer we do week to week with pick ups at 8am on Monday since most activities in our area begin at 8:30.
My DH suggested to BM that we do week to week with pick ups from school every Monday. This reduces parents contact and in general makes life easier for us because we have four other kiddos (6 and under).
Bm agreed to the week to week schedule since it is what ss wants but she is wanting pick ups to be Sunday nights at 8pm.
This doesn’t work for our family since that is bedtime and whenever we have transitions with ss , my kids go crazy with excitement, so it would really screw them up for school the next day. Another thing is I feel this schedule would impede on our weekends and her’s. Her reason for Sunday night is so she can talk to him about the upcoming week and so he can have their cell phone. We offered to give him our phone to have back and forth free of charge and she can call him whenever she wants but she still doesn’t want to do school pick ups even though we do that now.
Everything I read recommends school pick ups. What can we do to change her mind?