Oh the irony!
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So DH informed me that he is sending his 3o yr old daughter 2500 this month to cover her expenses. She is the one who took him to court to pay college expenses where she failed every semester and even falsified grades. Mercifully she lives thousands miles away. Was I crazy to ask why pray tell she couldn’t ask her best friend, her mother who led all court motions?
Next question is why are you not going to be paying in another 4 weeks? Oh. She has a job Interview this week.
So I told DH that the universe has come full circle in that DGis now paying her student loans! We keep our finances separate so I can’t be upset right? I knew after years of alienation that the biggest factor was money. Bingo!
Ugh. DH has court tomorrow,
Ugh. DH has court tomorrow, BM has petitioned for him to pay college expenses for SS18, who is a lousy student and has no business being in college. Let me ask, did BM win all of these motions she filed?
I will guarantee you though, that DH will not be giving SS any money in the future. SS is alienated as well, but DH won't fall into that trap.
Even if she gets the job she
Even if she gets the job she probably wont get it in time to have enough money for the next months bills and he will be forking over more money.
Unless your DH has a lot of
Unless your DH has a lot of income coming in, about one time would be all it would take for me to be done with this mess. Regardless, this woman should be footing her own bills and not looking to parents to cover. She knows parents will pay her bills, otherwise, she may have taken college more seriously. If she was paying the loan back, she might grow up financially.
As long as daddeeee keeps digging her out of the holes she digs, she will keep digging; that is a garantee.
DH will continue paying as
DH will continue paying as long as this daughter whines about it. Don’t forget DH was an enabler of her mother. So if he pays one month, why will it stop and how will he know if she even has another job? Her track record is brutal with him. She refused to make 35 dollars monthly loan payment he had co-signed years ago. This was 3 yrs ago and collection agencies were chasing him.
So now she is back the past year and here we go. I am pissy tonight but that’s about all. As I said money is separate but it is so frustrating.
It could backfire.
I know DH. He is cheap. Yes he is a pushover but I think the cheapness will win out. Who can afford 2500 a month? I think his daughter is tickled that daddy is paying all her expenses. And guess who lives in same town, her mother who is likely also thrilled. What incentive does his daughter have to stop the payments?
But I do think DH is going to stop payments. Soon. And how will that go over?
Time to sit back and watch.
"We keep our finances separate so I can’t be upset right?"
Be sure this is not depleting DH's retirement account. My DH placed hundreds of $$$ in SD's checking account every month for years instead of saving for his retirement. He now lives on Social Security, and if a disaster should happen I doubt SD would help out.
You are right. He has very
You are right. He has very little retirement money. Remember he lost maybe 50k fighting all the court motions.
I asked him tonight how does he know she is broke and most importantly, will she fess up when she no longer needs the cash? But I guess 2500 MONTHLY is a small price to pay for her attention.
So yes the 2500 k going into her account is 2500 less going into his, and with interest?
Who here thinks she will stand up and tell DH she no longer needs the money?
Sadly it is nearly impossible
Sadly it is nearly impossible to fix stupid so the view isn't worth the climb to even try. Stupidity is doing the same things over and over again while expecting a different result.
What is DH doing to stop his own stupidity in supporting the financial black hole that is his useless previouse relationonship crotch nugget?
All I is to love love love
I got told yesterday that I need to open my heart to this. I told him I did but why does it have to include my bank account? Lol
This is how it went with their mother. Why should it be any different with this one who’s mother could seduce a rock to produce water. I know the type.
So I need to just sit back. Focus on my life and adult kids. He obviously is going to continue this approach and I want nothing to do with it.
Happy to hear your finances
Happy to hear your finances are separate. Make sure you are preparing for an adequate income in your retirement years.
Something tells me you have already prepared and are continuing to do so.
Thank goodness my DH always thought about himself first, when it comes to $$$$. He still does. Sometimes it's embarrassing! Lol....
Hope your DH realizes his much too generous actions, before it's too late.