MIL Stirring The Pot
We went to dinner with my MIL last night. For the most part we get along, she has her annoyances but I know it's my husband's mom so I pretty much tolerate it. As we are getting ready to leave MIL says to DH "so what are you getting SD for xmas this year?" He responds with "I have no idea." She then looks directly at me and says "and what about you? What do you plan on getting for SD?" I responded back with "I have no idea I haven't spoken nor seen SD in about 6 months so no clue." MIL then says "did you ever think about picking up the phone and calling her to find out what she wants." I said "No and I don't plan to, I'm sure she has me blocked like she does on all social media."
SD and I have a very strained relationship. (See my prior blogs for some reasons). My MIL knows that we are not on the best terms. When I have to see SD (family gatherings) I can co-exist with her but that's about it.
Why would my MIL even bring this up? Just to stir the post and piss me off? Is this where our relationship is heading?
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Why? To stir the pot. Or
Why? To stir the pot. Or maybe she's playing spy for SD. Regardless, time to change your response. Keep it short, sweet, and to the point. "I have no idea" is exactly that.
Agree with this. MIL used to
Agree with this. MIL used to grill me for info regarding SD and after a couple times I could see why DH wasnt giving her the info she wanted himself. I stopped giving much of a response when she would ask about stuff and she got annoyed by that but has given up on asking. Now she tries to get info out of SD herself and got mad when she didnt want to discuss things with her. Maybe she should take the hint that no one wants her involved.
I could see my MIL saying
I could see my MIL saying something like this. In her case she seems to be unable to accept that SD is turning out to be exactly like BM (who mil hates) and is looking for anyone or anything to blame for her behavior other than SD herself. Stepmoms seem to tend to be the scapegoat it seems.
Are there any other kids or just the one?
Yes there is SS who is an
Yes there is SS who is an adult and lives out of state. Him and I get along great.
Your MIL is a piece of work.
I think the perfect gift is nothing. You don’t want to talk to me, don’t expect a gift. There is no law that you have to give your kids gifts. I would spend a little time as possible with MIL, You know SD is going to be at MIL for Christmas, to collect some money. You have to work on that one
Oh I know she will be there
Oh I know she will be there with her hand out. She always is. Last year at Christmas her response to her boyfriend of the week was "this is why I love Xmas, look at all this shit I just got."
I’d have just said “nothing”.
I’d have just said “nothing”.
Sounds like it’s a fine time
Sounds like it’s a fine time to stop tolerating her just because she’s your DH’s mother then, huh?
Screw her and the coconuts she rode in on.
haha. Thanks for the laugh I
haha. Thanks for the laugh I definitely needed that.
You’re welcome!
You’re welcome!
I was going to say
the broom she rode in on
I say “coconuts” because she
I say “coconuts” because she sounds like a monkey. A flying monkey.
Pot Stirring Meddler
Wow she really likes to get reactions doesnt she. I agree keep your answers short and sweet " the same thing SD is giving me, grief"
I think if she says something
I think if she says something again, I may respond back with "I'm going to give her the gift of not having to pay to repair the burn holes in my car"
Oooh, perfect..This is a
Oooh, perfect..This is a great burn. LOL
"Well, MIL, SD has made it
"Well, MIL, SD has made it clear she doesn't want to speak to me or have a relationship with me since she has blocked communication from me, so I'm going to respect her decision by not interacting with her until she wishes otherwise. She is an adult and can make her own decisions about her relationships."
Nothing. I am getting her
Nothing. I am getting her nothing.
Ah my MIL is an emotional
Ah my MIL is an emotional puppetmaster. This sounds like so many various experiences with her.
Drives me batty. Dare I say it, she's more of an issue than BM & SSs.
She's just causing trouble. I'd guess more for her own sick whatever need than flying monkey assignment. Although two birds, one stone is always a nice justification for those types.
Gray rock her. : )
"SD hid it well last year,
"SD hid it well last year, but I'm sure she was embarrassed to receive so much when she didn't give anyone anything. I don't want to make her uncomfortable again this year. If she want to exchange gifts, I'm sure she'll let her dad know".
"Ask your son"
"Ask your son"
Why is she asking you and
Why is she asking you and your husband separately "what are you getting SD for Christmas"? Last I checked you're both one, a unit so why two questions?
MIL..................She gets absolutely sh!t from us
I really think she was only
I really think she was only asking me that to stir the pot. If he doesn't know what he is getting her, how would I know? She knows we don't speak