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Submitted by tryingtomakeit on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 12:52pm

I know it is bad to feel the way I do about the sd, but this is my life too and I married my husband because I thought I was his partner, his lover you know the rest. But, here lately he has went out of his way to make his daughter, my sd feel like a princess and I hate to bust his bubble but she is far from that.

I am the one that pays all the bills, I am the one that cleans the house, I am the one that takes care of our baby together. I am not jealous of my sd, but I just want RESPECT!

My sd has not been coming to our house as much due to a change in shcedule and cut in pay at my husbands work. YOu think that this would make things easier....nope WRONG. Not that she did anything before, but now when she comes its like she is not suppose to move a finger. HE always tells her that she is his favorite girl. Thats fine and all....like I said i'm not jealous, but that fav girl needs to pick up her socks she left laying the the bathroom.

A few days ago she was over and she left her expensive shoes laying in the middle of the floor (not where they belong) well the dog got a hold of them....the dog did not tear them up, but my husband got on to the dog. I had to step in....I took up for the dog.....I know its that bad. But, my thinking is if the shoes were left inthe middle of the room then because they were not put in a safe place they were fair game. She knew we had a dog and she knows she is a puppy. I told my husband he didnt need to get on to the dog he needed to get on to his daughter because if they were put up where they belong the dog would not have got to them.

GRRRRRRR.....I hope I have more brains when it comes to raising our son!

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Submitted by steph91103 on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 1:03pm

I am finding myself in the same situation. I had to tell my fiances 14 yo that I'm not her maid - if she wanted one to go back to her mothers house! I'm disgusted with the way his kids get the royal treatment.....

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Submitted by smileygirl on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 1:13pm

Smile I agree with you on it all. I think a lot of us get treated like maids, servants, slaves, whatever...

I feel the same way about the dog. If SS's leave something out, it's fair game. As a matter of fact if the dogs don't eat it and it's left on the floor when they go to their mothers I throw it away myself.

Stick to your guns and I'm sure you'll do a better job with your son. I know I am...it would be hard to do worse.

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Submitted by Mavis29 on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 2:24pm

Oh I so relate to this. I get "love you" "love you more" between my SO and his kids, it's like a bloody episode of the waltons but I rarely hear the words said to me. I stopped picking their stuff up and if it's lying around when they've gone then it's in the bin. I'm past caring what any of them think when they can't find anything but due to the guilt parenting things get replaced no questions asked. This maybe childish behaviour on my behalf but he's driven me to act this way. I just keep out of it all now even though this gets me grief too but it's a no win situation with only one realistic outcome in time.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 2:38pm

I throw away any of SD11 shit that is laying around...I don't care what it is or what it cost. If she leaves it laying anywhere but in her own space, it is gone. She is plenty old enough to have some responsibility and not be such a lazy manipulative biotch who thinks her father should wait on her and that I need to be the f***ing maid. So frustrating....make me feel good when I throw away her stuff...lol. She is the most possessive crazy person I have ever seen...she would be pissed if someone threw away an empty Coke can if she thought it was hers...that is why I get the satisfaction of throwing her shit away!