Vacation Curve Ball
Sorry, it's been a while since I've posted, but things have been going pretty well since I've totally disengaged. This one has just thrown me for a loop...
FH's Dad was just out to visit again and it was really nice. I managed to survive the one day the other skids bothered to show up to see him (even if they didn't come when invited on the weekend for dinner, instead showing up in the middle of the week unannounced and expecting dinner). SS13 who's still with us every other week was extra whiny the whole time his Grandpa was here, but I did my best to ignore it and let FH deal with him. FIL and I got to spend a lot of time together this time, and that was really nice.
After he left, FH said he'd like for us to spend our Thanksgiving vacation with him. Fine with me We decided driving would be more fun that flying, and planned a road trip across country, with lots of sight-seeing stops along the way. There are lots of things he wants to show me. He even planned a stop to spend a day and night with my friends who'd moved out of state last year. After that, we'll continue on to his Dad's. We'll get to visit with his Dad, his old friends from the neighborhood, go to a football game, etc. He says we'll have to stay in his old room (it's just a 2br house), that we can prop up the twin bed against the wall and use our inflatable mattress. Sounds like fun and we've been enjoying planning out our trip for the last few weeks.
Never ONCE did he mention bringing SS13. Not once. Then one night he says he was able to get 4 box seats for the game he wants to see while there. I ask, "Why four? Your Dad's bringing a friend?" He says the fourth is for SS13. My mouth dropped open, I'm sure. I told him that he never said anything about bringing him along. Never a thing about where he's going to sleep while at his Dad's, questions about if my friends will have room for all three of us overnight, not even any mention of him while we were still trying to decide upon flying or driving. WTF? If I had know he was coming, I'd have wanted to fly. If I'd known he was coming, I'd have opted for a shorter trip. If I'd know he was coming, I'd have not made plans to visit with my friends.
If he could have just said something in the beginning, I'd really be fine, but I feel like he mislead me the entire time. I feel like he was trying to get me excited about the trip, before dropping the bomb. Something that I was very much looking forward to has now become something I'm dreading I'm seriously considering telling him he should make it a Father/Son trip and go without me. Do you think that would be wrong?