Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
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What's this nonsense? Tell
What's this nonsense? :?
Tell me please, what is the measurement of -giving 100%- ?
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Or someone using some
Or someone using some -medicine-
What are you on?
What are you on?
Fantasy Island, apparently!
Fantasy Island, apparently!
I used to watch that show
I used to watch that show when I was a kid!
" There is no try, only do."
" There is no try, only do." Master Yoda~
I have noticed the exact
I have noticed the exact opposite. I came into my relationship giving more, yes. Not 100% of the effort but more than 75%.
As issues arose that made me unhappy, I would up my efforts to where I was making at least 99% of the effort in the relationship.
This should have improved it, right?? Since I was giving MORE effort? NO - it just allowed H to make even LESS of an effort on his part.
Now that I am giving my relationship 10% effort since I have pretty much given up, it has forced H to up HIS efforts....maybe to about 35%.
However, 45% effort is not going to make our marriage work. Neither is 100% effort from me and 0% effort from him.
my dh and i look at it as
my dh and i look at it as 300% from both sides, 100% MIND BODY AND SOUL.
Wow, I can't believe people
Wow, I can't believe people here lost it with that one...I didn't say if you give 100% you get it back...heck no! Most here have given 100% while our DH's gave 10%...and little by little we said "idiot is taking advantage of me I'm not giving anymore"...and of course we had every right...but your DHs can't then say "try harder" cause once they do realize you gave 100% while they sat on their behinds allowing everyone to step on you, they can't and won't say "you nn to try harder"...on the other hand many DHs give us 30% effort to our relationship while giving their ex's and kids 70%+ of their souls...and then no matter how much they try to change once they realize they took advantage of us complain because we don't see how much they are "trying...or aré changing". Well, if they were 100% comitted to your relationship from day one, you would never feel they weren't trying hard enough because you'd trust them...
PS thanks for the insults...it was a thought and I truly appreciate the insults...maybe you should think about what is written a bit before reacting...it might help you out...sigh