Why don't our SO see the other perspective?
Why does it alwayalhave to be so difficult? I have been sick on and off with weather changes down here in TX. I usually don't get allergies or sick for the most part. Well this year has kicked my ass with being sick. Once imI'getting back to my self again bam it hits me again. Back to the dr and back on antibiotics......the works!
Well my SO thinks that i am unattracted to him, lol that is not the case at all. He expressed to me that for the past few months I have been distant and he feels like there is a disconnect. We have not been having too much sex due to this crud I have. I don't feel sexy or in the mood because of the congestion sinus pressure and headaches. They're out having the crud I still have to go to work and provide for my disabled mother and provide for this house as well. He likes to have these talks through text when I'm at work and my job requires my full attention because I am in the medical field. He just doesn't understand that my mean system is compromised daily with all the sick people I'm around, I am stretched thin between work home life and still taking care of a disabled mother. He never complains about me spending time away from him when she is sick but I can feel he thinks is too much time away from him. To me I just said he is being needy for what reason I don't know.
To give another example, during the holiday season is always super busy at the hospital. I have had a patient that has passed away recently and she is relatively Young and it was an unexpected passing. She was a great patient a great woman and when things like this happen during the holiday season especially, I get emotional. It is just the human part of me grieving for this woman I took care of and he doesn't understand. I know that we have to leave work at work but things of this nature get to me sometimes. So when I get home and hold him extra tight and be grateful that he still alive he doesn't understand. Part of it I think it's him not understanding my profession at all and the stresses I go through and I want to come home and just lay there.
I just don't understand why he cant see my perspective at time like this.