BM decided to shave SS(5)'s hair into a mohwak and dye it bright pink.
That's right. A 5 year old with a bright pink mohawk. She also thought it was a good idea to put birght pink highlights into SD(7)'s hair and get some acrylic nails at 7. DH's mother just took her in and got her a 100 dollar hair cut and had her hair dresser put some very soft natural looking highlights in her hair. (not something I would have done, but she was trying to spoil her and you couldn't really see any highlights.) DH had no idea that she planned on doing this. Why might you ask? Because she doesn't give a sh!t and does whatever the hell she wants to do. She's also told SD that she can get her nose and belly button pierced. Can we say MOTY.
So, when we get the kids next Monday for our scheduled week we are going to have to take SS in to have his bright pink mohawk shaved off and take SD in to see if there is anything we can do get the pink out of it. She has supper blond hair and I'm hoping that they'll be able to do something.
Does anybody know if acrylics can removed or if you have to let them fall off?
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Ok, I just shaved SS9's hair
Ok, I just shaved SS9's hair in to a mohawk (of sorts) and didn't talk to BM about it first. But I DID NOT and WOULD NOT die it. Not with permanent color anyways. Maybe with the washout. Same with your SD. MAYBE a washout, it's summer time I like to let my kids have a little freedom.
But nails on a 7yo? thats terrible. That is so bad for her nails! And the belly and nose piercings?!?! Is she saying she can do this NOW? Because I would have a MAJOR problem with someone poking holes in my 7yo kid.
I really don't have an issue
I really don't have an issue with the mohawk, it's more of the hair dye and even if it isn't permanent with how light SD's hair is the stuff that washes out will never wash out completely. Her hair is so light it's almost platinum.
I understand. I agree. I
I understand. I agree. I don't even like it when BM puts "sun in" in SS's hair. But it more bothers me because she does it so that his hair won't be dark like DH's but light like hers. :sick:
It's joint custody so
It's joint custody so everything is 50/50. Would that make a difference with what BM can do with the kids?
soak her nails in nail polish
soak her nails in nail polish remover for 15-20 minutes, they should pop right off. As far as the hair you might be fucked. My parents let me dye my hair when I was a teenager to express myself, the pink refused to come out and I used temporary dye, five hours later at the salon I was finally back to normal.
Good to know... no temp die
Good to know... no temp die for our house...
And that's what we are going
And that's what we are going to have to do to get the pink out of her hair. It's so blond it looks like it's platinum.
100% acetone will work a
100% acetone will work a little quicker. Do outside or in ventalation. Or you could take her to a nail,salon usually $10 to have a nail set removed.
Coming from the other
Coming from the other perspective, and this is not me saying dying a kids hair pink is appropriate...but when I met DH, SS was 3 and he wore his hair in a mohawk (I live in Austin, TX, home of the weird).
In Kinder, SS begged DH to cut his hair in a mohawk again. DH did. Two days later, he went to BM's and she shaved it off because it was "inappropriate". DH was pissed.
SD is 12, wants to dye the tips of her hair blue, get a second earring hole, and stretch her first holes out a teensy bit. Now Dh and I have no problem with any of it. Why? This kid makes STRAIGHT A's, in ALL Pre-AP classes and is a damn good and responsible kid. If she wants to look like a freak (when her Dad and SM are the king and queen of freaks), we have no issue with it. BM used to be a freak but is now ultra conservative (because her man is) and refuses to allow her to do any of the above.
All I'm trying to say is, 1) it's summer time, it was probably just for fun. 2) I'm betting it's not permanent and 3) unless she is banned by a court order from making decisions about her kids, she is going to pitch a shit fit if you cut the mohawk off...just saying...
She isn't banned from making
She isn't banned from making decisions for the kids but neither is DH. He thinks it's inappropriate and she knew it would piss him off. Even if it's not permanent it will not wash completely out of blond hair which both kids have. SD's is just a lot lighter than SS's hair. They have joint custody and I can see not having to discuss every hair cut but when you want to do something extreme I think that it's appropriate that you check witht the other parent. DH likes to do stuff like go out to nice restaurants to eat when you get dressed up and look good. Kinda hard to do with a bright pink mohawk.
And who cares what BM thinks about DH shaving off the mohawk. She did it to piss him off. If she has the right to do whatever she wants without approval from DH than DH should be afforded the same opportunity.
"If she has the right to do
"If she has the right to do whatever she wants without approval from DH than DH should be afforded the same opportunity. "
I agree with you as long as it is 50/50. Maybe if it pisses her off she will learn to talk to him before going to the extreme.
It is 50/50. She does crap
It is 50/50. She does crap like this to him all of the time. SD will be having behavioral issues at school and BM will be the one who knows about everything and never tells us anything until it get out of hand. She signed SD up for a field trip on DH's week where you had to pack a lunch and never told us. She has sent assignmets home for DH to do with SD but never says anything, doesn't put it in her Friday folder, and shoves it in the bottom of her backpack. Then when the assigment is due she contacts the teacher and tells them that DH was supposed to do it to try and make him look like a crappy parent. I flat out told DH this year that he needs to explain to the teacher what's been happening with a intentional lack of information and make sure that we receive copies of all school assignments and permission slips so that we know what the heck is going on.
You'll care very much if she
You'll care very much if she shows up screaming in your driveway like a looney like BM's like to do so much.
We have 50/50 of my steps as well and my mantra is that DH has just as much right as BM when it comes to the kids.
So yes, you are right, your DH has just as much right to shave the kids head and BM did to cut it in a mohawk and dye it pink. They are BOTH those kids parents, regardless.
I know that's not a popular theory and I'll take a flaming if necessary for stating it, but did anyone ask the kids if they wanted to do it?
P.S. It's illegal in most states to get a child a body piercing below the age of 16 so she can't do that for quite some time.
Any beauty supply store, like
Any beauty supply store, like Sally Beauty Supply, should have acrylic nail remover. Otherwise soak nails in acetone. It will take a good hour to soak off the tips with regular nail polish remover.
Hope this helps.
~BettyRay
Summer is the perfect time
Summer is the perfect time for crazy and fun hair styles.
The nails would annoy me, but I would not do anything about them. Removing them will just start The War of the Nails.
You will remove them and BM will just keep redoing them. Do you really want to spend EOW removing nails?
Her dad can remove them and
Her dad can remove them and BM can't afford to put fake nails on her dughter twice a month.
I do think that it would drive the point home though. You need to consult with DH before you do anything extreme to either of the kids or DH is just going to fix it which makes it a waste of money.
This. It is just hair. It
This.
It is just hair. It will either grow out or wash out. OR BM can pay to have a salon dye it back to blonde.
The nails are oogey but so what? a 7 year old will have them broken in a week anyway.
You are kinda freakin' out about really really small stuff.
Only during the summer,
Only during the summer, though. Its hair, it'll grow out.
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With the 5 year old, yes. It's will grow out. But what about a little 7 year old girl with hair down to her shoulders? School starts in two and a half months for her. Will her hair grow sxi inches in that time frame? Probably not which means that she will have faded pink streaks when she starts her first day of school. And let's not forget that picture day for us is right at the begining of the school year.
I could see maybe letting her dye her hair when is old enough but not pink. And there is no way in hell DH would ever let her do that. Just because she wants something doesn't mean it's the right thing to do.
My dad would have kicked my butt if I ever died my hair any color when I was a kid.
I'd leave it all alone. 1.
I'd leave it all alone.
1. its summer.
2. when people stare or ask - you say BM did it - that in itself would be worthwhile, then you roll your eyes
3. if the kids get bad reactions from others - they will be asking BM to reverse it themselves
^^^THIS^^^
^^^THIS^^^
If it really matters so much
If it really matters so much to DH, it's something he can get addressed in the court order. It can state that neither parent can get a piercing, hair dye, mohawk, or acrylic nails done on the kids without getting permission from the other parent. That may be w better way to address it, as opposed to just undoing these things yourselves.
I don't think either side is right here. Ultimately, the kids pay by being caught in these petty disputes. BM should treat DH with the same respect she wants him to show her, and in the grand scheme of things, many BMs do worse things. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it might help you both in the long run if you either adopted different mindsets about this, or took the court order approach I suggested above.
It can state that neither
It can state that neither parent can get a piercing, hair dye, mohawk, or acrylic nails done on the kids without getting permission from the other parent.
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This I agree with and have thought about throughout the day today. I personally have no problem with the mohawk. I do however not agree with dying their hair. It's not my place to say anything to BM about it but I can however experss my distaste to DH. I have more of a conservative approach and would never do that to my child. But there's the difference. She is my child to make decisions over.
Now I usually don't care what other people think but I have to be out in public with these kids and I don't want people thinking that I am their mother and I allowed their hair to be died pink and acrylics to be put on a 7 year old which is what will happen. Now I can point out that I am not their mother and I did not choose to allow that but I really feel that shouldn't have to which means that I will just not take them out until the color has been removed.
And for all of those posters out there that think it's not that big of a deal, that's fine. It may not be. But I was raised in a household where this would never be tolerated as was DH. It is what it is. I feel that it's my job to raise my child to be a responsible adult and not make them look cool to my friends just so I could look cool.
Not to mention with SD's horrible behavior this weekend BM was supposed to carry the punishment over to her house. Did that happen? I'm guessing not seeing as how SD now has bright pink highlights and fake nails. Or maybe it is. I would feel like I was being punished if somebody put pink highlights in my hair.
stupid behaviour, what does
stupid behaviour, what does BM want to express here to do that to her kids?I would be so mad.