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How many ways can people differ on the needs of a child?

Thetis's picture

What I believe:
I believe a child needs routine.
I believe a child needs a home.
I believe a child needs a constant care giver.
I believe a child needs time to be a child, and not worry about things like hair and make-up.
I believe a child needs to be protected from stangers.

What I see when my child is not in my care:
My step-daughter eats when hungry, sleeps when tired, and bathes when she wants to.
My step-daughter has had 4 "homes" with her mother this year.
My step-daughter has had 8 primary care givers with her mother since Dec 08.
My child has had her hair dyed bright pink, bright purple and dark blue with semi-permanent hair dye. She has also had fake tattoos that only come off with rubbing alchol (such as Bad Girl) and adult make up (mascara)
My step daughter has been left in the care of a man her mother has only known for 3 weeks, who decided to give her a bath. She has been expected to listen to and feel safe with numerous care givers and has also developed cold sores (HPV).

My step daughter is now three years old.

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Thetis's picture

Sole custody. The trial is on Thursday next week. Schedualed for two days, however it might now get finished in the time.

Amazed's picture

Can we have BMs addy so we can all go beat her til she's dead or comatose?

Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others. ~Buddha

Pantera's picture

This is f'd up. Go get EMERGENCY Custody and start the proceedings for Sole Custody.

Thetis's picture

Well socail services have been involved but they "dont want to fight custody battles" and have stepped down until the trial is over. My SD is living with her grandparents right now when she is not with us, since the bm moved out of province and we had an order put in place that our child can not be taken out of this town.

DISbelief's picture

Sick..... just sick. What is wrong with BM? Just sick.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ ; )

Thetis's picture

Ok,in defense of the BM she is a 20 year old child (not all 20 year olds are this dumb) who has had a pretty fu cked up life. That being said she can not see her mistakes and still thinks shes going to win this trial on the bases of "shes the mother"

Amazed's picture

hmf...don't defend that bitch. Sorry. I had a troubled life too and left my kid with his father for a short time but doesn't sound like she's trying to improve the situation she's in. Sorry...her little girl needs to be with people who can take care of her. BM can have another chance IF she straightens her act up...supervised visitation.

Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others. ~Buddha

DISbelief's picture

I am sure she doesn't have a problem bashing YOU without throwing in a defense... I'm just sayin...

If my 8 YO daughter knows better than to let ANY MAN other than her DAD (and I MEAN BIO) see her naked, then this 20 YO girl should know better than to let some guy bathe her 3 YO kid. That's just common sense, even at age 20.

She has no business being responsible for another life.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ ; )

DISbelief's picture

Keep us posted! I am interesred to see what the court has to say about all of this.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ ; )

Thetis's picture

Will do. I saw someone right a letter to the BM on here, and I think I'll try that. I have to figure out what to say in my testimony without sounding so terrible and I think it would be a good practice for me.

DISbelief's picture

It helps just to get your feelings out on paper. Even if you don't actually SAY everything you write. It is a fabulous stress reliever. I use it in a lot of aspects of my life. I just start typing... then when I actually TALK to the person, I tend to only mention the important things, and leave the PETTY out.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ ; )

step_up's picture

FYI cold sores are caused by HSV not HPV.

Also, last time I checked cold sores aren't caused by poor parenting any more than the flu is.

Thetis's picture

Good call. HSV... however the way the virus is transmitted is still the same. Someone with a cold sore kissed our daughter, or shared something that has come in contact with their infection. Its just not a good practice. Also the biggest thing about the cold sore that I left out was the fact that it was untreated and by the time our daughter came back into our care it was an infected sore that took up half of her lower lip.
Any one of the problems that we have with the BM could have been dealt with, however there has just been soo many now that it is difficult to address any one problem with out the other problems coming up.
Thanks for the correction. It helps to be more informed!!

Amazed's picture

Why do you have to be so condescending and sarcastic???? "Also, last time I checked..."----extremely sarcastic and it reeks of superiority. This woman needs our support not sarcasm and superiority.

Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others. ~Buddha