Is it jealousy?
So Bm has decided we have gotten along for long enough. She has treatened to withhold SD from us if we do not attend a bday party she is throwing for SD with all of Bms family. They share joint custody, but the only access ruling is one that was put in place for when Bm moved away. Dh is supposed to have generous and reasonable access.
I'm wondering now if she is doing this because I told her we had to do baby shopping that day. It is three weeks before my due date. She has also told Dh that I need to butt out. It really seems like she is trying to make him chose between his two families. (Although I believe he only has one family and BM is not a part of it.) She seems to have unrealistic expectations. She starts crap but wants us to come and pretend to get along infront of SD. I think it would be better if we just kept the two families seperate.