BM hanging onto CS by her fingernails
Many things have changed in our lives presently:
-SS left for BMs and never returned at the end of Dec 17
-SS Turned 18 in February
-BM kicked out SS end of april and he is now living in a shelter for youth
-SS did not talk to SO for 6 months , but since being kicked out they have reconnected
-SD Is pissed at SO
One even that has changed: SO Hired a Lawyer, for the first time EVER. He did it and hired a Lawyer. BM was served earlier this month to permanently end CS for SS (who is 18 and is not in highschool) and SD 20 who is in Adult Highschool. SOs lawyer and BMs lawyer are allegedly pals and they both came up with an offer to settle where everyone walks away owing nothing.
But we both know Money Grubbing BM WOULD NEVER agree to such agreement and its true, we found out tonight she does not.
So on to the court room we go!
Now I have some concerns:
SO lost his job in 2015 and his income was $35,000, in 2016 it was $76,000 in 2017 it was $94,000. There last court appearance was in 2014 and CS was set for $600/month it was reduced from $755 for hardhsip reasons. It turned out SO getting fired was the best thing to happen to us financially. However, SO did not advise BM(she didnt ask either) of his increases.
He paid CS which was in arrears when he lost his job from summer 2015 to feb 2016, when he started working again 2016.
SD turned 18 in 2016, she decided to work for a year and then when CS was suddenly coming to an end she decided to enroll herself in adult highschool and is claiming emotional disability or anything else to prolong CS, as to why she did not graduate High School yet, she could have taken a GED or apply as a mature student. Did I mention it is entirely manufactured her "emotional messes".
At any rate, I am concerned that SO may be fucked financially for not disclosing as BMs lawyer mentioned were going to impute the $94,000 going back to 2014. SOs Lawyer said he has dealt and won court cases like this. Where the ex wives, in his words are "clinging on to dear life for CS". Because that Bitch refused to pay CS for SS while living with us and tell SO when SD was working not attending school, we calculated and she still owes SO $5000 on top of welfare fraud of $3000 lol. But again its up to the judge to see her for what she is.Just worried about his CS going way up even though shes 20 and im hoping it ends soon or shell take her sweet ass time going to post secondary school.
Because she dragged me into the last court appearance I have been smart, I have transcprits of SO paying me CS for the last two years, from the advice of a few ladies on here a few year ago. That they did the same thing, seperate from their SO so BM cannot pull financial BS...sorry for the long blog, lots of stuff happening, will keep it updated as things happen.
I know the end is almost near, but how long, as we both want this money hungry bitch out of our lives for good.
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Court with a desperate, lying BM is scary; been there done that five times with DH. We cannot control the outcome, even those who can afford to retain counsel. Sounds like you're doing what you can to prepare, doing a good job. Keep breathing, take good care of yourself (healthy food at regular intervals & enough sleep will help you), and try not to let your mind go into the "What If's" because that just makes you feel worse & doesn't help anything.
Very glad you wrote tonight; hopefully writing that out helped you and I hope you get good rest and some freedom from the anxiety.
There are no obligations to continually report
increases and decreases to the court otherwise the courts would be far more clogged than they are now. In our state, I think you can request a change every 3 years. Now reporting a new job or home address IS required according to our state (BM centric NY)
In our case the Girhippo immediately enrolled SD19.5, who baaaaaaaaarely passed HS with pity grades just one point above failing, into remedial courses at community college. Almost instantly SD started posting memes about failing out of college. Now she has gone radio silent. We think she has dropped out but no way to prove it since they've been PASed out for almost a decade now and SD has denied a legitimate FERPA request to track performance in community college.
Looks like we will be hiring a PI and a pitbull lawyer around tax time early next year as Chef's "official" income has dropped significantly. And the CO says that no CS to 21/24 if skid is not in college sans a gap year.
AND we still have truant YSS 15.5 to deal with (also PASed out) IOW we are paying CS for him as well along with SD 19.5
I feel your pain!!
Thank God DH's worthless POS
Thank God DH's worthless POS son was in his mid 20s when DH and I met. CS was not an issue although TBH BM was never a CS leach. I love my DH and we have a great life together, but I know myself. I would NEVER have accepted a situation where CS altered my lifestyle.
Thank God that DH's 2nd wife who was the bitch from hell never had children with DH. She begged him to reverse his vasectomy - but thank goodness he didn't . I would NEVER have had anything to do with him if that bitch had been in our lives. She is a total fruitcake - she asked DH to plant drugs in her first husband's home because of a custody issue. DH of course refused. But when her ex and the hobag he cheated with divorced she dumped DH (after 15+ years) and went back to the bastard because he had more money.