Same crap....Different Day...
So apparently my DH forgot that he was supposed to pick up the skids yesterday. I had just got off of work and get a text from him telling me that he is going to deal with a customer and has to drive out to his place to talk to him about 45 minutes away. I ask him aren't you supposed to pick up the skids today? He says yes, he asks me if I can do it and I tell him I would rather not because I don't want to deal with BM or the skids today. He asks can I please pick them up? I said I will do it this time but next time you will have to make other arrangements or they will just not come over.
What I don't get is why he is so adamant about not missing a visitation. I mean stuff comes up and schedules change. The only thing I can think of is that he doesn't want the skids to think that he's a bad dad. Well news flash you really don't parent them any way!!
Anyway, so I am driving to pick them up and then all of the sudden DH calls me and tells me that BM texted him and told him that YSS has a band concert and that he will have to pick up OSS from her house and YSS from his school after the band concert. I told DH hell no I am not dealing with this crap. He says well can you pick up OSS at BM's house and he will pick up YSS after his band concert. I said ok fine.
I get to BM's house to pick up OSS and BM had just pulled up in the driveway. I park across the street and she just stares then flips me the bird and walks inside her house. I called DH and told him do not ask me to pick up the skids at BM's anymore because I am not dealing with her drama. He asks me what happened and I tell him and he tells me I am sorry that happened. I just told him that I am not going anywhere near BM's house anymore.
So OSS comes out and gets in the car and I drive off. He is being his usual self and just starts talking his nonsense like he always does. I see a sign that says lab puppies and I am looking at the sign and all of the sudden OSS tells me you don't need another animal do not even think about getting one. I look at him and say excuse me!? He says I know what you were thinking? I said actually no you don't because you aren't a mind reader and I am an adult and you need to mind your own business and watch the way you talk to me. Then he's quiet for about 10 minutes or so.
Then he tells me that he is smarter than me and I just laugh and say ok kid whatever you say. I said you need to just stop talking to me right now because I am really sick of your crap and you disrespecting me. I noticed that you only do it when we are alone and you make sure that your father isn't around so this crap stops right now because I will just not deal with it any longer. He didn't say a word. I know that it won't last long because he is had no filter and just doesn't know any better however, I still will not let a 15 year old disrespect me.
So when DH gets home I tell him the way OSS acted and what he said to me and he says well he has been like this all his life what do you want me to do? I told him I want you to tell him that he doesn't have to like me but that I am your wife and he will respect me. I said he only does it when you aren't around mostly so he probably is doing it on purpose. I told him that he isn't doing his kid any favors but not teaching him how to be respectful and not treat people badly but whatever his kid his problem. I told him that I will not allow him to talk to me the way he talks to me and I will shut it down every time. I am just tired of the excuses that my DH makes for his kid. I try to be around OSS at least as possible so that helps but now that I am not going to pick them up at BM's house anymore that should minimize some of it.