On to the next episode.....
So BM was quiet for a few months then the psycho comes out to play again. She had another episode when DH ignored her text messages about driver's ed and she asked if she could have one of DH's weekends so the skid's to see her their grandmother. Well first of the all the kid doesn't turn 15 until October so she won't be able to sign him up for driver's ed until then. I told DH that if he wants to coordinate driver's ed with BM then that was up to him but I wasn't going to let the psycho dictate my weekends. And then I told him if he wanted to give up one of his weekends that was totally up to him as well. But she didn't even offer to switch weekends with him or anything she just asked if she could take one of his weekends. I mean she is a self righteous reptile you know!! I told DH I would just ignore her and move on. He doesn't have to communicate with her about any of this.
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I don't get this. If I want
I don't get this. If I want to swap weekends either because I want my kid or I DO NOT want my kid. I offer to swap. My ex only offers to take. WTF?
Many places you have to sign up in advance for Drivers Ed
Does he not want his kid to learn to drive? Has he investigated where she should take classes? Have they agreed who is going to pay? Sounds crazy to me they would not communicate about this. If the best/cheapest place to take lessons is an every Saturday class, yes, they need to rearrange things.
No one signs up for driver's
No one signs up for driver's ed here 6 months in advance. My friend just did it with her son - they signed up right before the classes began.
Where I live
The cheapest class is through the school, you sign up when you sign up for your fall schedule. Johnnie come latelies will not get in. But if dad does not investigate, he won't know
They don't even offer driver
They don't even offer driver's Ed through the schools here anymore, so your advice is not universally accurate. This isn't something that requires an "investigation" half a year in advance.
Of course no requirement
But I would want to understand options. Group, private, semi-private, etc. Of course, if you are willing to pay top dollar, and get private lessons from a private establishment, less of a wait.
This kid can't be trusted
This kid can't be trusted with a butter knife and an open electrical socket. I don't think his dad should be eager to put him behind the wheel.
Are you confusing kids?
You say he, OP is talking about her SD. In any event, not communicating about it is not the answer.
Op doesn't have any
Op doesn't have any stepdaughters. But yes, you must know what you're talking about.
Communication with a high conflict ex should be limited to absolute necessities. It is not necessary to coordinate freaking drivers ed six months in advance.
oops sorry re the kid
But I still think a mistake not to research drivers ed
No, she's talking about her SS
"Well first of the all the kid doesn't turn 15 until October so she won't be able to sign him up for driver's ed until then"
Plus TBH, it's a terrible
Plus TBH, it's a terrible idea for the kid to get a permit on his 15th birthday. Then it expires and you have to wait for the period to be up before you get the license if you can't get it on his birthday for ANY reason.
I think that depends on the state
In my state, the permit lasts till license
Ah. Growing up mine lasted a
Ah. Growing up mine lasted a year and you had to have it for a minimum of 6 weeks before you could get the license. So if it expired, you had to go get a new one and wait a month and a half to be eligible IF everything else was already done.
As I have said BM is high
As I have said BM is high conflict. This stuff can be discussed through email not a harassment of text messages.
Amen to that beebeel!
Amen to that beebeel!
She did get it through the
She did get it through the school. Again, they signed up right before it started. It's not done as a class in her district, it's extra and in the evening.
So, you may not have the corner on truth.
The school district here does
The school district here does give driver's ed/behind the wheel. No, not free, but yes, much cheaper than a driver's school.
And yes, here while the kids are filling out next years schedules they would be selecting 1st semester or second semester. The school gets final call on who takes it first or second semester though. A 14 year old could do the classroom part and the behind the wheel (in OP's case, October when kid could get permit at 15)... but if there are lots of kids turning the age pre OP's SS, they'd boot him to 2nd semester sign up.
Here, even with the 15yr olds, the school goes with which kids will be turning 16 first and actually able to get first license.
I don't think OP is talking public school driving courses though as she mentioning Saturdays. Here all school district classes are scheduled the usual Monday - Friday school days and time.
Being how OP has spent a number of years telling us how immature and compulsive her skids are, the thought of one of them finally reaching driving age , well, sounds scary as h*ll. I don't think I'd race this kid into driving school (regardless of school district or private classes) until skid showed a marked improvement of being ready for it. Just because a 'teen' turns age to drive doesn't necessarily mean kid is ready to learn and be out on the road.
Yes, I agree with look who
Yes, I agree with look who the parents are. LMAO!!
No he is not paying for
No he is not paying for anything BM will be the one to pay. He no longer gives BM any extra money because there is a CO and he pays CS plus Medical Insurance. I don't know if the kid wants to learn to drive or not. But, BM is high conflict so my DH communicates with her as little as possible. Like I said if he wants to discuss this with BM and coordinate with her that is up to him but I will not be involved.